"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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My GF has been nagging on me A LOT lately telling me that I don't compliment her enough.. Come to think of it, she is right.. I don't ever compliment her at all, ever... I have many good things to say about her in my mind all the time. However, I know how bad too much complimenting can be. Been there done that.

How is this situation best handled? How can you compliment them JUST enough but not a drop more than you need to?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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logicallefty said:
My GF has been nagging on me A LOT lately telling me that I don't compliment her enough.. Come to think of it, she is right.. I don't ever compliment her at all, ever... I have many good things to say about her in my mind all the time. However, I know how bad too much complimenting can be. Been there done that.

How is this situation best handled? How can you compliment them JUST enough but not a drop more than you need to?
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Does she compliment you?
 
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slaog said:
Compliment on some things about her that you like. Once in a while is best and maybe the best time to do it is when she leasts expects it.


Make sure the compliments are sincere i.e only compliment the things YOU like about her.
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Agree.

Also, She is your girlfriend, so treat her like your queen, but never lose your "frame". Just like with any interaction with a woman, never expect an outcome.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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you need to learn how to give her genuine and truthful compliments, without inflating her ego or her head about how 'hot' she is or whatever most chumps do
 
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you need to learn how to give her genuine and truthful compliments, without inflating her ego or her head about how 'hot' she is or whatever most chumps do
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I agree totally... And thanks for the feedback everybody.
 
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GAH

As much as I love the DJ Bible I'm getting sick of the bull**** that comes with it.

YOU ARE ALLOWED TO COMPLIMENT GIRLS

Do you guys know naturals in real life? No not jerks that get women but NATURALS who makes women feel good and women love them. They compliment women all the time!

If you have good things in your mind but you aren't saying them you are acting AFC.

At the same time if you are thinking something bad but you compliment her or keep quiet that is also being AFC. You are worrying about this one far too much. You aren't balenced.

The rule to go by if you think about whether you should compliment or not is simply "is this honest?"

Here's a little something else: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=150876
 
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