"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Completely lost my frame on this ltr

JonnyD123

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For reference to the events leading up to this: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/her-friend-is-tearing-us-apart.239822/#post-2416956

Basically we talked. I completely turned into a chump. We still had s*x afterwards. She spent the night. Had s*x again. Things seemed great for a couple days, I was only talking to her when she initiated. Started making plans again, then she dropped a bombshell out of nowhere saying she was "pulling away," and the things I said to her changed our
relationship.
I shouldn't have responded, or maybe just given a short answer but I completely vomited my feelings via text and turned into a huge vaginá. She hasn't responded yet. No hope for this one I'm guessing. Any thoughts besides no contact?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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wifehunter

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Sounds complicated.
 

El Payaso

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Yeah, it's on a decline if it's not already dead.

The best thing you can do now is to start mentally withdrawing and focus on yourself. You've told her how you feel over text. Not the best course of action but it's done. Nothing you can do about it now. She'll either use it to her advantage to get you to supplicate to her even more, dump you outright or pull away even more.

It will be hard but you need to start thinking of her less and focus more on things in your life.
 

AlphaNate

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She's enjoying telling her friends what a p*ssy you are. Stop being a p*ssy. Move on.
 
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