"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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okay i keep comparing myself to other people that are better then me with girls..i'm a beginner and i know i'll be there one day..but i still keep on comparing myself...can anyone help me on that
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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All i can say is stop. Think of how you would ideally like to be and see how well youre doing. Fvck other people.
 
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steelers said:
okay i keep comparing myself to other people that are better then me with girls..i'm a beginner and i know i'll be there one day..but i still keep on comparing myself...can anyone help me on that
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Instead of looking at guys and saying to yourself, "Oh man, I wish I was like that.", you might find it more helpful to think, "Wow, that's pretty cool. I wonder how I can incoprorate that into my own game?"
 
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oakraiderz2 said:
All i can say is stop. Think of how you would ideally like to be and see how well youre doing. Fvck other people.
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It's ok to compare to an extent.. it's a great way to learn some tips and know what you're doing wrong.. but don't compare to the extent that it makes you depressed or anything.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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