You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
cablecow15 said:why Don't you get off this forum if all your gonna do is complain
the people that think not getting laid is the worst thing in the world aren't gonna be helped by anything
Some men on here aren't all that experienced in getting a date. Others are puzzled by the emotional / neurotic / feminist nonsense that women say and do. Nothing wrong with men sorting out ideas and using each other as a sounding board.don't said:Like civil war, being in prison, starving, disease, busted up in a car wreck, being on the run, having a gang after you, etc. Your silly little "can't get any" problem is a joke. Get over yourself, why don't you?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Ok, but modern society says to suck up problems and ditch those who have hard lives. :woo:bigneil said:don't makes a good point (finally).
Also note that the hardships we endure strengthen us and give us character, then women come out of the woodwork. It also allows us to have empathy for those who aren't as fortunate. There is a fine line being living high on the hog and low on the sidewalk.
This.MisterD said:While I agree you should always Thank God and feel Blessed for what you have, telling yourself "hey, it could be worse" will not take care of the problems you do have
if you have a problem getting women, you can't say "well some people in the world are starving, at least i have food"
that's not going to solve the actual problem you have of getting women
if you have a problem in life, it has to be taken care of, no matter how big or small it is in comparison to other people's problems
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.