You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
cablecow15 said:why Don't you get off this forum if all your gonna do is complain
the people that think not getting laid is the worst thing in the world aren't gonna be helped by anything
Some men on here aren't all that experienced in getting a date. Others are puzzled by the emotional / neurotic / feminist nonsense that women say and do. Nothing wrong with men sorting out ideas and using each other as a sounding board.don't said:Like civil war, being in prison, starving, disease, busted up in a car wreck, being on the run, having a gang after you, etc. Your silly little "can't get any" problem is a joke. Get over yourself, why don't you?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Ok, but modern society says to suck up problems and ditch those who have hard lives. :woo:bigneil said:don't makes a good point (finally).
Also note that the hardships we endure strengthen us and give us character, then women come out of the woodwork. It also allows us to have empathy for those who aren't as fortunate. There is a fine line being living high on the hog and low on the sidewalk.
This.MisterD said:While I agree you should always Thank God and feel Blessed for what you have, telling yourself "hey, it could be worse" will not take care of the problems you do have
if you have a problem getting women, you can't say "well some people in the world are starving, at least i have food"
that's not going to solve the actual problem you have of getting women
if you have a problem in life, it has to be taken care of, no matter how big or small it is in comparison to other people's problems
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.