"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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compare yours to REAL problems.

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Like civil war, being in prison, starving, disease, busted up in a car wreck, being on the run, having a gang after you, etc. Your silly little "can't get any" problem is a joke. Get over yourself, why don't you?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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While I agree you should always Thank God and feel Blessed for what you have, telling yourself "hey, it could be worse" will not take care of the problems you do have

if you have a problem getting women, you can't say "well some people in the world are starving, at least i have food"

that's not going to solve the actual problem you have of getting women

if you have a problem in life, it has to be taken care of, no matter how big or small it is in comparison to other people's problems
 

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why Don't you get off this forum if all your gonna do is complain

the people that think not getting laid is the worst thing in the world aren't gonna be helped by anything
 

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cablecow15 said:
why Don't you get off this forum if all your gonna do is complain

the people that think not getting laid is the worst thing in the world aren't gonna be helped by anything

Do yourself a favor, and look up the first 4 or 5 threads he created. He's just a troll, and he's one of the weaker ones.

Don't argue with him, just ignore.
 

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don't said:
Like civil war, being in prison, starving, disease, busted up in a car wreck, being on the run, having a gang after you, etc. Your silly little "can't get any" problem is a joke. Get over yourself, why don't you?
Some men on here aren't all that experienced in getting a date. Others are puzzled by the emotional / neurotic / feminist nonsense that women say and do. Nothing wrong with men sorting out ideas and using each other as a sounding board.

Some men on here are really hurting from being emotionally / psychologically / financially abused by women. Nothing wrong with seeking help from other men who've been through it.

Better to prescribe medicine to combat the symptoms, and take a chance of being wrong or overprotective, than to wait until after the autopsy and be 100% certain of what was killing the man's body and soul.

Society is messed up, so the individuals who make up society are messed up. As an individual, I can't fix all of society by myself. But I can help fellow men fix themselves one by one. In doing so, I fix myself.

I think it's negative reinforcement -- in other words, a mind fvck -- for you to assert that men must act like the dysfunctional Marlboro Man male role model, especially when feminists already criticize that as being as unreal as the Stepford Wives female role model.

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I am not her man. She can't stand the thought of me touching her. She's dripping with other men's semen. She is ashamed to be seen with me. She never misses an opportunity to disrespect me. Everything I do is wrong. I am the problem. She got what she wanted from me. She says "I hate you so much I could kill you." Going away forever will make her happy again. So I'm leaving her to her pumped-and-dumped lifestyle and leaving her bastard child fatherless. I'd be better off with no woman at all than wasting another second thinking about her. I learned from my mistakes and the next relationship will be done with planning for my happiness.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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This is so stupid. Psychological distress is as real of a problem as physical distress.
But, since you kept it physical:
- so what if you lost your job? You could do worse, like having cancer.
- so what if a loved one was raped? She could have been killed.
- so what if your much beloved wife cheated you with all your friends, had a baby with one of them and you raised it like it was yours? You could have been maimed by a speeding truck.

Jeez, do you see how stupid this can get by following your line of thought?
It says a lot about your intellect. But don't worry, you could have been clinically retarded not just have a low iq.

To summarise for the slower ones: not getting girls, which causes depression, bad concentration, saps you of energy,etc., IS A REAL PROBLEM.
 

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don't makes a good point (finally).

Also note that the hardships we endure strengthen us and give us character, then women come out of the woodwork. It also allows us to have empathy for those who aren't as fortunate. There is a fine line being living high on the hog and low on the sidewalk.
 

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A problem means a lot to the sufferer.

Even if it is petty, this means one cannot feel aggrieved? :down:
 

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bigneil said:
don't makes a good point (finally).

Also note that the hardships we endure strengthen us and give us character, then women come out of the woodwork. It also allows us to have empathy for those who aren't as fortunate. There is a fine line being living high on the hog and low on the sidewalk.
Ok, but modern society says to suck up problems and ditch those who have hard lives. :woo:

I would say also that life circumstances are not equal, and never can be. People, sometimes due to hard work or even good fortune, are born into, receive or acquire favourable positions. Somebody born into a rich family in Beverly Hills has more opportunities than an orphan child in Africa.
 

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MisterD said:
While I agree you should always Thank God and feel Blessed for what you have, telling yourself "hey, it could be worse" will not take care of the problems you do have

if you have a problem getting women, you can't say "well some people in the world are starving, at least i have food"

that's not going to solve the actual problem you have of getting women

if you have a problem in life, it has to be taken care of, no matter how big or small it is in comparison to other people's problems
This.

I think moaning about unfairness is infantile, and frankly a mental illness.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I once read a very interesting graphic novel called 'Persepolis'. It's about a woman who grew up in Iran during the Islamic Revolution. She went through that, the Iran-Iraq War, and the imprisonment and murder of several members of her family. When she got older she studied in Europe, and after finding out her boyfriend was cheating on her she broke down and lived on the street before returning to Iran.

As she says 'I suffered a revolution and a war, but it was a banal love story that almost did me in".

You should always be grateful for what you have. But it isn't enough to keep you from missing what you don't - especially if that something is not material (such as a bigger house or car) but intangible (love, purpose in your life).
 
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