Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
cablecow15 said:why Don't you get off this forum if all your gonna do is complain
the people that think not getting laid is the worst thing in the world aren't gonna be helped by anything
Some men on here aren't all that experienced in getting a date. Others are puzzled by the emotional / neurotic / feminist nonsense that women say and do. Nothing wrong with men sorting out ideas and using each other as a sounding board.don't said:Like civil war, being in prison, starving, disease, busted up in a car wreck, being on the run, having a gang after you, etc. Your silly little "can't get any" problem is a joke. Get over yourself, why don't you?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Ok, but modern society says to suck up problems and ditch those who have hard lives. :woo:bigneil said:don't makes a good point (finally).
Also note that the hardships we endure strengthen us and give us character, then women come out of the woodwork. It also allows us to have empathy for those who aren't as fortunate. There is a fine line being living high on the hog and low on the sidewalk.
This.MisterD said:While I agree you should always Thank God and feel Blessed for what you have, telling yourself "hey, it could be worse" will not take care of the problems you do have
if you have a problem getting women, you can't say "well some people in the world are starving, at least i have food"
that's not going to solve the actual problem you have of getting women
if you have a problem in life, it has to be taken care of, no matter how big or small it is in comparison to other people's problems
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.