"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Coming To Terms With Yourself

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I'm sure at some point a fair few of us had try to come to terms with the fact that it is possible that a member of the opposite sex may actually be interested in them

It's a hard thing to get over and come to terms with, especially for those who had not considered themselves so attractive before

How would someone deal with such a thing, or how have you dealt with it
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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nateistoraw said:
WTF? does this even mean. Shouldn't you be happy if chicks dig you for no reason?
It's more the fact that I don't consider myself attractive, so when someone does say I am or feigns interest, I'm suspicious of their motives or if they're just taking the piss
 

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So you're saying you have low self esteem.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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TheWayOfAllFlesh said:
but still dont see why girls would be interested in me
You have low self esteem.

Fix it.
 

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whats the point of this thread, you just here to spread some negative vibes or what brah? You want help? Advice? Or just wallow in your foolish thought process? I dont get why people make these douchey threads.
 

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Julian said:
whats the point of this thread, you just here to spread some negative vibes or what brah? You want help? Advice? Or just wallow in your foolish thought process? I dont get why people make these douchey threads.

I just wanted to know if anyone else has had my problems before and how they got over them

If I wanted to spread negative vibes id use childish words like 'douchey'
 

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Lol.

You are probably new to this stuff, talking to women, attracting women. I wouldn't say i'm very good with women, i still have my issues, but that was what i felt when i first started not very long ago. The thing is, after you open up yourself, feel more comfortable in your own skin around women, you'll naturally feel you have something to offer. You'll feel you're above them. You're a man, and you won't tolerate any form of disrespect. Either they make it up to you, or you leave them behind.

It's that easy but tough to get in the head, free of doubts. That's why you got to keep communicating with women, and make it a habit. It's like a skill you have to practise to maintain or become better at.

Like someone said, the only way to be amazing with women is to think that you already are.
 
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