"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Coming To Terms With Yourself

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I'm sure at some point a fair few of us had try to come to terms with the fact that it is possible that a member of the opposite sex may actually be interested in them

It's a hard thing to get over and come to terms with, especially for those who had not considered themselves so attractive before

How would someone deal with such a thing, or how have you dealt with it
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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nateistoraw said:
WTF? does this even mean. Shouldn't you be happy if chicks dig you for no reason?
It's more the fact that I don't consider myself attractive, so when someone does say I am or feigns interest, I'm suspicious of their motives or if they're just taking the piss
 

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So you're saying you have low self esteem.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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TheWayOfAllFlesh said:
but still dont see why girls would be interested in me
You have low self esteem.

Fix it.
 

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whats the point of this thread, you just here to spread some negative vibes or what brah? You want help? Advice? Or just wallow in your foolish thought process? I dont get why people make these douchey threads.
 

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Julian said:
whats the point of this thread, you just here to spread some negative vibes or what brah? You want help? Advice? Or just wallow in your foolish thought process? I dont get why people make these douchey threads.

I just wanted to know if anyone else has had my problems before and how they got over them

If I wanted to spread negative vibes id use childish words like 'douchey'
 

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Lol.

You are probably new to this stuff, talking to women, attracting women. I wouldn't say i'm very good with women, i still have my issues, but that was what i felt when i first started not very long ago. The thing is, after you open up yourself, feel more comfortable in your own skin around women, you'll naturally feel you have something to offer. You'll feel you're above them. You're a man, and you won't tolerate any form of disrespect. Either they make it up to you, or you leave them behind.

It's that easy but tough to get in the head, free of doubts. That's why you got to keep communicating with women, and make it a habit. It's like a skill you have to practise to maintain or become better at.

Like someone said, the only way to be amazing with women is to think that you already are.
 
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