"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Coming To Terms With Yourself

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I'm sure at some point a fair few of us had try to come to terms with the fact that it is possible that a member of the opposite sex may actually be interested in them

It's a hard thing to get over and come to terms with, especially for those who had not considered themselves so attractive before

How would someone deal with such a thing, or how have you dealt with it
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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nateistoraw said:
WTF? does this even mean. Shouldn't you be happy if chicks dig you for no reason?
It's more the fact that I don't consider myself attractive, so when someone does say I am or feigns interest, I'm suspicious of their motives or if they're just taking the piss
 

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So you're saying you have low self esteem.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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TheWayOfAllFlesh said:
but still dont see why girls would be interested in me
You have low self esteem.

Fix it.
 

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whats the point of this thread, you just here to spread some negative vibes or what brah? You want help? Advice? Or just wallow in your foolish thought process? I dont get why people make these douchey threads.
 

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Julian said:
whats the point of this thread, you just here to spread some negative vibes or what brah? You want help? Advice? Or just wallow in your foolish thought process? I dont get why people make these douchey threads.

I just wanted to know if anyone else has had my problems before and how they got over them

If I wanted to spread negative vibes id use childish words like 'douchey'
 

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Lol.

You are probably new to this stuff, talking to women, attracting women. I wouldn't say i'm very good with women, i still have my issues, but that was what i felt when i first started not very long ago. The thing is, after you open up yourself, feel more comfortable in your own skin around women, you'll naturally feel you have something to offer. You'll feel you're above them. You're a man, and you won't tolerate any form of disrespect. Either they make it up to you, or you leave them behind.

It's that easy but tough to get in the head, free of doubts. That's why you got to keep communicating with women, and make it a habit. It's like a skill you have to practise to maintain or become better at.

Like someone said, the only way to be amazing with women is to think that you already are.
 
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