"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Coming acrros as too loopy???

Amateur_FOR_NOW

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I was a shy guy before and now I am relaxing more and more...but my best friend says that I come across as too loopy to girls and people in generel(they kind of think I am crazy or something)

Is this bad for women and DJ-ing in general???

What can I do about this???

P.S. While I was explaining to my friend the attributes of the AFC and of the DJ he told me that I shouldn't try to become more enthusiastic,agrresive,seductive,****y and funny....BECAUSE THAT'S JUST NOT ME! what an IDIOT I say
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Amateur_FOR_NOW said:
P.S. While I was explaining to my friend the attributes of the AFC and of the DJ he told me that I shouldn't try to become more enthusiastic,agrresive,seductive,****y and funny....BECAUSE THAT'S JUST NOT ME! what an IDIOT I say
That's why generally you don't need to talk to your friends about this.
 

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Loopy doesn't work, not even a little.

Confident
Intelligent
Mysterious
Challenging
Funny

Any one of these will work like a charm.
 

vorbis

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just make sure it comes across as natural. I know some guys who can spout routines perfectly word for word and you just feel its not having any impact. Congruency is a big factor. If it appears learnt off and out of nature, its not gonna work too well
 
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