"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Coming acrros as too loopy???

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I was a shy guy before and now I am relaxing more and more...but my best friend says that I come across as too loopy to girls and people in generel(they kind of think I am crazy or something)

Is this bad for women and DJ-ing in general???

What can I do about this???

P.S. While I was explaining to my friend the attributes of the AFC and of the DJ he told me that I shouldn't try to become more enthusiastic,agrresive,seductive,****y and funny....BECAUSE THAT'S JUST NOT ME! what an IDIOT I say
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Amateur_FOR_NOW said:
P.S. While I was explaining to my friend the attributes of the AFC and of the DJ he told me that I shouldn't try to become more enthusiastic,agrresive,seductive,****y and funny....BECAUSE THAT'S JUST NOT ME! what an IDIOT I say
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That's why generally you don't need to talk to your friends about this.
 
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Loopy doesn't work, not even a little.

Confident
Intelligent
Mysterious
Challenging
Funny

Any one of these will work like a charm.
 
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just make sure it comes across as natural. I know some guys who can spout routines perfectly word for word and you just feel its not having any impact. Congruency is a big factor. If it appears learnt off and out of nature, its not gonna work too well
 
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