leather238
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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You don't have IT down. And quit trolling.I have no problems getting girls and have "it" down
Liar, but I won't hold it against you. Just be honest and admit that, like all of us, you are here to learn.leather238 said:Okay, here's a little about me. I spent my freshman year sleeping around with as many attractive women as possible. I have no problems getting girls and have "it" down. Please don't try to convince me i don't (i'm a master don juan under a different username and haven't been an afc for about 2 years now), i just want you to give me advice regarding this situation.
Of course, having a boyfriend (or even a husband) means nothing. Any guy who has been with more than a couple of chicks knows this.leather238 said:Do I keep making all the right moves and build her interest, allt he while still continuing with the other girls and new ones as well?
or should I completely avoid her as much as possible until she's single?
My thinking is: She's not the type that wants to be single so she wouldn't leave her bf unless she knows there's a better guy ahead (me). I figure I'll keep making the right moves, and slowly progress on the kino (which she first initiated, and now does so 2/3 times.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.