"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Cola's pic thread got me thinking

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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My issue hasn't ever been about attracting women moreso it was keeping them in my life in a way that was positive.

I have improved that pretty good, still not perfect but overall a lot better than I used to be.
 

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It seams being in control is somewhat of an illusion. I think we choose a path and God provides the steps. That isn't to take away from drive desire and passion. Not to me it doesn't.
I have to have faith in something.
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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The women that really love me and care about me annoy me, and I usually push them away. Like damn stop smothering me with all your love, stop wanting to talk to me daily, stop calling me first, stop responding to my texts super fast with paragraphs... then months later I look back like damn, that girl really liked me, why was I acting like that with her lol
 

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The women that really love me and care about me annoy me, and I usually push them away. Like damn stop smothering me with all your love, stop wanting to talk to me daily, stop calling me first, stop responding to my texts super fast with paragraphs... then months later I look back like damn, that girl really liked me, why was I acting like that with her lol
FWIW this is exactly why men should reach out first & then women respond warmly. It avoids the smothering and maintains some tension & polarity.

It has been my experience as a woman that men get easily bored when a woman isn’t interesting or isn’t intriguing. Keeping something mysterious and uncertain keeps people’s interest.

Men who have been through myriad women (including men in this thread) are seeking someone who is especially unique as a consequence of having so much choice. Women like that exist but are rare. You know, the ones who are smart enough to satisfy your intellect, cool enough to chill with, hot enough to get you hard, and spunky/spontaneous enough to keep you engaged while also keeping some mystery and tension. That’s tough to find in one woman.

The players are used to pretty faces, boobs and bums. Looks are not enough to keep a man whose had lots of women. It’s the deeper characteristics that count. Sex first & get to know later is a strategy MOST players employ because sex has become a commodity really. But sex with someone you are connected to and care about is different. It gets deeper than the physical. It becomes a meeting of the minds/bodies/spirits...but sex right away is never at that depth (reported to me by MANY players who were either close friends (not FWBs) or lovers).

Screen for those deeper characteristics. Release women until you find those characteristics and then allow yourself to express yourself more. Allow yourself to become attached.

That’s how you find a meaningful partnership.

Rotating women isn’t going to get you a meaningful relationship. Those two things are inherently mutually exclusive.

At some point you gotta take a risk and pick somebody to try and share your story with in life.

Don’t take my female opinion about this if you think this is all chick speak look up what Paul Zanka in NYC and comedian Russell Brand have to say about it.

At some point you are perhaps going to want a real human being to human being relationship in your life. Early dating, plate rotating, and starting over with a new line up every 3-4 months isn’t going to get you this.

But there is relatively little content on SS about having a successful meaningful relationship. I think it’s something worth discussing.

And @cola it’s Ok you want to be a hero...most women want a man to be their hero in a sense...just think about what that means.

A little crazy is ok. It just needs to be a type of crazy you can live with.

So those are some thoughts.
 

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Screen for those deeper characteristics. Release women until you find those characteristics and then allow yourself to express yourself more. Allow yourself to become attached.

That’s how you find a meaningful partnership.

Rotating women isn’t going to get you a meaningful relationship. Those two things are inherently mutually exclusive.

At some point you gotta take a risk and pick somebody to try and share your story with in life.
Can I gently pull on your hair while I cry
 
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