silenthill
Don Juan
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Do you guys think this is a good clothing style? I'm trying to appear casual and laid back.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I think you need to worry about the look of your face before you start worrying about the clothes you wear.. Find someone that looks liek you and that has a style that looks good on them. Chances are it will look good on you too.Originally posted by silenthill
Whoa dude calm down. Fine heres a close up.
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That's tough sh!t. You better start making them your thing. The first thing a girl looks at is the way a guy dresses. I've never heard anybody say "Jeans aren't my thing."I told you jeans arnt my thing.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Earth to dumbass, you can buy loose fitting jeans.Ok, you can wear your tight jeans. I'll stick to khakis.
Thank you! For auctually giving some constructive critism.Originally posted by spitkicker
you look a little unkempt and messy. If you insist on not wearing jeans...which is odd and not the best thing you could do...mabe get some better fitting khakis. Not dockers style, but something cool from "Paper Denim" They make some really cool khaki style pants that have the trendiness and flair of jeans. Also, linen pants have been known to work, but i never incorporate them in my stlyle.
The cargos you are wearing now were in in 1999. Not now, i don't think....
Lose the text on the shirt underneath. Add 1 piece of jewlery.
And the shirt looks a little too generic....
check out: www.solisstyle.com and see if anything floats your boat.
hope this helps
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.