CJs cold approach journal

[Atom Smasher]

Do you remember what I told you in another thread, that you come off as a beggar?
Your behavior here bears that out. Why were you seeking her approval instead of flipping the script and getting her to want to impress you?
I hope that someday it will click for you.

 

[Cheeky_James]

You asked her for feedback? Cringe.

And why would that be Cringe , RetardedAutist?

 

[Cheeky_James]

Sounds like you need to enjoy the process and stop being in such a rush. My interpretation.

yeah.
I defs need to ask the ch1ck what she’s open to /wants primarily first - then calibrate my approach to that on the date.
I was unsure if this ch1ck wanted a NSA hookup or more than that. I didn’t have time to discuss w her in the chat before we bounced to a date .
So I just ran that game but it was a mismatch.

Some chicks are straightforward.. don’t mind my escalation and not bothered re connection much cos they just want a few laughs and to get down to biz that night. (Hookups)

important to clarify that beforehand !!

 

[condonrekema]

Does anyone here know of any guides or resources specifically about day game? I can usually do well at a salsa or bachata place at night or when going out with friends, but I don't really like staying out late because of my beauty sleep and fitness. So, most of the women I’ve met lately have been through Hinge or work-related events, which isn’t ideal. Also, since I’m new in town, I don't have any friends to go sarging with.

 

[Cheeky_James]

Do you remember what I told you in another thread, that you come off as a beggar?
Your behavior here bears that out. Why were you seeking her approval instead of flipping the script and getting her to want to impress you?
I hope that someday it will click for you.

dude , there are different scenarios.
You are missing some context.
That flipping of the script is done early on the app chat anyway, not on the date.
And if a chick indicates a strong desire for me , there is no need to do the “impress me “ thing.
That overcomplicates and fvcks fhings up.
If the situ is an NSA hookup.. no need to do that.

@condonrekema
Day game is quite tough. I only do that at daytime social events . Festivals etc where there is a party atmosphere , alcohol and dancing etc tbh. Maybe bookstores and cafes also are good locations to seduce other types of women sometimes too ..

I don’t know of any good dedicated DayGame guides tho tbh. Never come across one.

well, in saying that Strauss’ book had some DayGame scenarios. That’s pretty solid.

 

[Cheeky_James]

Do you remember what I told you in another thread, that you come off as a beggar?
Your behavior here bears that out. Why were you seeking her approval instead of flipping the script and getting her to want to impress you?
I hope that someday it will click for you.

.
I’m not sure where you think I was seeking her approval??? Or pvssy begging? Wtf …pls point it out what I did .. giving her a once over with my eyes ? Lol
That’s a bit of a jump to pvssy begging imo.

but let’s say you’re right. Somehow..
so how do YOU do that personally.
the flipping of the script.

give me some lines and material. Or some screenshots of text messages ideally.

Happy to test it out.

 

[condonrekema]

dude , there are different scenarios.
You are missing some context.
That flipping of the script is done early on the app chat anyway, not on the date.
And if a chick indicates a strong desire for me , there is no need to do the “impress me “ thing.
That overcomplicates and fvcks fhings up.
If the situ is an NSA hookup.. no need to do that.

@condonrekema
Day game is quite tough. I only do that at daytime social events . Festivals etc where there is a party atmosphere , alcohol and dancing etc tbh. Maybe bookstores and cafes also are good locations to seduce other types of women sometimes too ..

I don’t know of any good dedicated DayGame guides tho tbh. Never come across one.

well, in saying that Strauss’ book had some DayGame scenarios. That’s pretty solid.

Thank you, sir.
I've been reflecting about that and considering the suggestion you made about day events, made me reflect that maybe just maybe I've been just too lazy. Almost anywhere you can find something to-do on a Sunday or Saturday with a bunch of strangers.
I appreciate the words of wisdom.

 

[Rainman4707]

A guy came in for an appointment today in a government office. He was quite talkative in which is a quiet environment (whether it was nerves that was making him chatty, i dont know) i was on the door. He was chatting to me a bit, then a female customer came in, so i had to go and see her, so he sat down, the only free chair left was next to him and i kind of pointed her in that direction. Anyway, it was all quiet, then he started chatting to her telling her about himself, then asking about her, her background etc. Quite a ballsy move from him i think, considering the environment. And credit to him, he got the number.

Just thought i'd add this to your thread, seen as though it's CA.

 

[Rainman4707]

@Cheeky_James which city are you in?

 

[Rainman4707]

Review of last night and observations ;

pretty busy “cool” bar with a venue next door and a big name DJ playing so lots of hot ladies and cool guys floating around. I have not been out trying nightgame in quite a while

I was moving between the bar (inside) and the verandah outaide on the street next to the venue and the queue outaide there. Street was busy

general observations
- bar staff were 2 trendy dressed tall gay dudes and 2 hipster chicks.
- lots of people and lots of cliques of 3-4 mixed ppl at tables.
- 2 hot chicks 1 Asian 1 white I sat next to but they were deep in convo about some dating /man drama. I really liked the Asian and she observed me possibly IOI/liked me but I did not open cos they was busy furiously talking. They left soon after. Meh.

- tried talking to some older unattractive chick just for conversation but she was drunk or stoned and didn’t give me much and turned away.
- chicks inside bar in pairs but very young for me, too young. Could see them looking at me judging as I was solo until 10:30pm

- tons of hot chicks walking past bar and lining up to venue , but either with hot dudes or in mixed cliques with hot dudes.

- almost every hot chick was usually with a hot tall Chad dude …or 2 or 3 such dudes in a clique. Either tall or big framed well dressed dudes.

- the bathroom of the bar I nicknamed “the white room” as I suspect everyone doing Coke in the toilet stalls . Multiple voices and ppl coming in /out of toilets.

- lots of folks on drugs coming in/out of venue.
- general druggy atmosphere and venue crowd mostly on drugs
- someone smoking a joint in the verandah crowd one section stank of weed

- opened a chick with a 9/10 face but a butter body on a smoke break from the gig. She’d had a bit of coke, and pretty chatty
Could have possibly got her number but figured I’d see her later maybe. I left before gig was over, plus she was sizeable, so no .

- did continually notice that the cliques all had hot dudes present and the “cliquey” cold vibe around the groups.

- took a pic of the DJ he was cool.
- tried to sit next to a chick in a corner on one end who was talking to another high but attractive chick on a smoke break , corner chick must have sussed out my plan and quickly put her feet up on the chair between us and ****blocked me from getting close to talk. Meh

- my friend arrived finally around 10:30/10:45

- 2 hot bodied very b1tchy looking chicks were standing across 2 sets of tables from us , we scoped them out and watched a fat Indian PUA type guy open and talk to them.
I had been watching this guy moving around and opening a few sets during the evening, and getting nowhere . He was chubby short and very dark skinned. His smv would be low I judged.

I will continue with details about these 2 chicks and the possible approach of them.

I remember i would go out for a few beers and there was a big group of lads would ignore me - i hate cliques! Where as if i was ever out in a big group and i there was aguy in the bar alaone, i would have a bit craic with him. Some lads are up their own arses, vain as f***. Think they are better than other people. Like all these guys on Geordie shore and love island where everyone has to peacok and be the centre of attention.