"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Atom Smasher

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Do you remember what I told you in another thread, that you come off as a beggar?
Your behavior here bears that out. Why were you seeking her approval instead of flipping the script and getting her to want to impress you?
I hope that someday it will click for you.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Cheeky_James

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Sounds like you need to enjoy the process and stop being in such a rush. My interpretation.
yeah.
I defs need to ask the ch1ck what she’s open to /wants primarily first - then calibrate my approach to that on the date.
I was unsure if this ch1ck wanted a NSA hookup or more than that. I didn’t have time to discuss w her in the chat before we bounced to a date .
So I just ran that game but it was a mismatch.

Some chicks are straightforward.. don’t mind my escalation and not bothered re connection much cos they just want a few laughs and to get down to biz that night. (Hookups)

important to clarify that beforehand !!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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condonrekema

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Does anyone here know of any guides or resources specifically about day game? I can usually do well at a salsa or bachata place at night or when going out with friends, but I don't really like staying out late because of my beauty sleep and fitness. So, most of the women I’ve met lately have been through Hinge or work-related events, which isn’t ideal. Also, since I’m new in town, I don't have any friends to go sarging with.
 

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Do you remember what I told you in another thread, that you come off as a beggar?
Your behavior here bears that out. Why were you seeking her approval instead of flipping the script and getting her to want to impress you?
I hope that someday it will click for you.
dude , there are different scenarios.
You are missing some context.
That flipping of the script is done early on the app chat anyway, not on the date.
And if a chick indicates a strong desire for me , there is no need to do the “impress me “ thing.
That overcomplicates and fvcks fhings up.
If the situ is an NSA hookup.. no need to do that.

@condonrekema
Day game is quite tough. I only do that at daytime social events . Festivals etc where there is a party atmosphere , alcohol and dancing etc tbh. Maybe bookstores and cafes also are good locations to seduce other types of women sometimes too ..

I don’t know of any good dedicated DayGame guides tho tbh. Never come across one.

well, in saying that Strauss’ book had some DayGame scenarios. That’s pretty solid.
 
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