"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Atom Smasher

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Do you remember what I told you in another thread, that you come off as a beggar?
Your behavior here bears that out. Why were you seeking her approval instead of flipping the script and getting her to want to impress you?
I hope that someday it will click for you.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Cheeky_James

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Sounds like you need to enjoy the process and stop being in such a rush. My interpretation.
yeah.
I defs need to ask the ch1ck what she’s open to /wants primarily first - then calibrate my approach to that on the date.
I was unsure if this ch1ck wanted a NSA hookup or more than that. I didn’t have time to discuss w her in the chat before we bounced to a date .
So I just ran that game but it was a mismatch.

Some chicks are straightforward.. don’t mind my escalation and not bothered re connection much cos they just want a few laughs and to get down to biz that night. (Hookups)

important to clarify that beforehand !!
 

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Does anyone here know of any guides or resources specifically about day game? I can usually do well at a salsa or bachata place at night or when going out with friends, but I don't really like staying out late because of my beauty sleep and fitness. So, most of the women I’ve met lately have been through Hinge or work-related events, which isn’t ideal. Also, since I’m new in town, I don't have any friends to go sarging with.
 

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Do you remember what I told you in another thread, that you come off as a beggar?
Your behavior here bears that out. Why were you seeking her approval instead of flipping the script and getting her to want to impress you?
I hope that someday it will click for you.
dude , there are different scenarios.
You are missing some context.
That flipping of the script is done early on the app chat anyway, not on the date.
And if a chick indicates a strong desire for me , there is no need to do the “impress me “ thing.
That overcomplicates and fvcks fhings up.
If the situ is an NSA hookup.. no need to do that.

@condonrekema
Day game is quite tough. I only do that at daytime social events . Festivals etc where there is a party atmosphere , alcohol and dancing etc tbh. Maybe bookstores and cafes also are good locations to seduce other types of women sometimes too ..

I don’t know of any good dedicated DayGame guides tho tbh. Never come across one.

well, in saying that Strauss’ book had some DayGame scenarios. That’s pretty solid.
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Cheeky_James

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Do you remember what I told you in another thread, that you come off as a beggar?
Your behavior here bears that out. Why were you seeking her approval instead of flipping the script and getting her to want to impress you?
I hope that someday it will click for you.
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I’m not sure where you think I was seeking her approval??? Or pvssy begging? Wtf …pls point it out what I did .. giving her a once over with my eyes ? Lol
That’s a bit of a jump to pvssy begging imo.

but let’s say you’re right. Somehow..
so how do YOU do that personally.
the flipping of the script.

give me some lines and material. Or some screenshots of text messages ideally.

Happy to test it out.
 
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dude , there are different scenarios.
You are missing some context.
That flipping of the script is done early on the app chat anyway, not on the date.
And if a chick indicates a strong desire for me , there is no need to do the “impress me “ thing.
That overcomplicates and fvcks fhings up.
If the situ is an NSA hookup.. no need to do that.

@condonrekema
Day game is quite tough. I only do that at daytime social events . Festivals etc where there is a party atmosphere , alcohol and dancing etc tbh. Maybe bookstores and cafes also are good locations to seduce other types of women sometimes too ..

I don’t know of any good dedicated DayGame guides tho tbh. Never come across one.

well, in saying that Strauss’ book had some DayGame scenarios. That’s pretty solid.
Thank you, sir.
I've been reflecting about that and considering the suggestion you made about day events, made me reflect that maybe just maybe I've been just too lazy. Almost anywhere you can find something to-do on a Sunday or Saturday with a bunch of strangers.
I appreciate the words of wisdom.
 
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