"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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A 40 yr. old?

Cripes man, she'll deteriorate so quick you won't believe what happened !! Why, when you can get way younger? At that age only one thing is on their mind, and it aint sex. I'm puzzled why youre interested, unless your just in it for the experience .. but shields up ma boy.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Actually, women at that age have higher sex drives than they did in their twenties.
 

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Had that happen to me, several times. Must be my side interests which certainly promote a fair amount of atheism.

"The creator does not answer."
Vger---Star Trek the motion picture.
 

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Originally posted by dietzcoi
I agree with Francisco

Anybody who identifies themself forst and foremost with a group is already dangerously close to being a fanatic... unless you are also a fanatic of that group, you will have nothing but trouble.

Normal people do not identify themselves as "A CHRISTIAN Woman".. only the real fanatical born-again types do that. THe rest of us nominal christians would never describe ourselves in that way.

Dietzcoi
Agreed. This turns into nothing more than a vicious cycle of limited self identity.

"What is Vger?"
"Vger is that which seeks the creator"
"And What is the Creator?"
"The creator is that which made Vger."
Star Trek the motion picture.
 

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I must agree with the minority here.She may or may not be a fanatic,but you'll never know unless you go out with here.Be clear about your intentions and belief and be up front with her and set your guide rules early.Just say,"Hey look,I like you and we can go out and see what happens,but I'll let you know right out,I'm not attending church or anything that happens to be based on religion".
Contrary to some of the earlier posts some of Xian women are wild underneath.My parents were well known Gospel singers on TV in a small southern town and they played many local churches.I've know women who may be on their knees Sunday in church praying,while on Saturday night they were on their knees elsewhere with me doing something else!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I would think a Christian girl will squirm as well as any other
so I would pursue her because breaking her down will be all
the more fun. Expose a little of the hypocrisy to sunlight.....

mike
 

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Originally posted by persistent exaction
I would think a Christian girl will squirm as well as any other
so I would pursue her because breaking her down will be all
the more fun. Expose a little of the hypocrisy to sunlight.....

mike
Thank you.In the struggle between the carnal and the spiritual,the carnal will always will out.I say nail her under tha auspice of Bible study at her house.Make her speak in tongues!
 
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