"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Morning: 2 leisurely 10 min walks to meeting and back

Afternoon: 1.25 hour road bike ride with three 3 min breaks.
5°C weather with approx 45 km/hr headwind for last halfhour of ride (smh, of course...I loved the challenge, I didn't slow effort or change gears on purpose to really skyrocket my heartrate-unknown)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Afternoon: Two 15 min bikerides. I half hour walk
Evening: Two 25 min walks
 

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Before work: Powerwalk so fast I sweat for 24 min.
Climbing and powerwalking first work quarter.
I'm doing well first day back after 6 weeks off. Work Brothers are impressed.
 

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Later same day: 6 more hours minus breaks of powerwalking and climbing at work
19 min speed powerwalking after work plus 2 x 10 min leisurely walks in the evening
 

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One 10 min walk before work + 8 hours powerwalking in slushy/icy snow and climbing.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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One 10 min walk before work + 8 hours powerwalking in slushy/icy snow and climbing.
Bewildered: Can you elaborate some? Hard to comprehend the torture! What's the motivation? Getting Married?
 

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Bewildered: Can you elaborate some? Hard to comprehend the torture! What's the motivation? Getting Married?
I'm trying to become fit.

My only motivation is a return to the old Christie from 15 years ago, that level of health and beyond because I used to smoke back then.

And I don't now.
Thanks for asking.



This morning: 15 min fast walk
8 hours powerwalking and climbing
After work: 35 min steady walk with about 75 yard jog to catch a bus
I still have a leisurely 10 min walk ahead of me before home.
 

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My only motivation is a return to the old Christie from 15 years ago, that level of health and beyond
Well I promise you, I know that kind of dedication. And it says what you're made of. I salute you.
Please don't pull a hammy ;)
 

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Well I promise you, I know that kind of dedication. And it says what you're made of. I salute you.
Please don't pull a hammy ;)
So far so good, feels great to be doing this volume of activity again
 

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@christie thank you for sharing your daily commitment(s) toward being fit. Cold weather, COVID, long day of work...despite all, you seem to be finding some really cool ways to go about accomplishing your goal.

Wishing you continued passion and strength as you embark on your goal. I'm reading.
Thank you for letting me copy your idea and thank you for your energising words.
And I'm still eager to add lifting weights now that I can, but I'm saving all energy reserves for work rn.

Your nice words are money on this 4th day of work back. Thank you sincerely.
 
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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35 +23+10+25=93 min steady walking
8 hours powerwalking and climbing
10 min bikeride

muscles have tightened up internally-a feeling of being stitched or fused together
Doesn't hurt to sit or lay down.

I have a constant rosy glow with buffed/polished looking 22 year old face skin. Apparently, my circulation is excellent.
Not tempted to get on scale until at least the same amount of time has passed, as the 6 weeks I was off work. So before May I'll weigh in.
 

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Friday: 23 min brisk walk plus regular workday efforts

Saturday: over 2 hour bikeride and about 1.5 hrs walking the bike when out of steam.
 

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Monday: 1.25 hours steady bikeride, 2 minute water break
regular workday efforts and then there will be a 23 min walk with 10 min bikeride after work
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Thanks, there's failures...quite a few of them, but I don't write them here. (So tired I walk funny at the end of my days) Only demoralises me. I'd rather collect the wins.

Thanks for reading and commenting. You understand the power of simple positivity and optimism.
 

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It's my opinion you're pushing too hard, but I commend you. Also I'm only doing 15% of your output so who am I to judge. Give this stuff a try please. ((Tailwind Endurance fuel)) "It's not Gatorade".. I get it at Imtbtrails Mtn bike forum.
Mikie the web owner sells it. Or go to Tailwind. Yer an animal
 

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It's my opinion you're pushing too hard, but I commend you. Also I'm only doing 15% of your output so who am I to judge. Give this stuff a try please. ((Tailwind Endurance fuel)) "It's not Gatorade".. I get it at Imtbtrails Mtn bike forum.
Mikie the web owner sells it. Or go to Tailwind. Yer an animal
I'll have a look.

Sounds like a cool forum. Always wear your helmet mountain biking. My cousin's brotherinlaw went head over handlebars and became paralysed.

Yer an animal too because like recognises like.

If you want to do more, believe you can do it, you've got the support here.
 

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work(delivery day success-no need for work brothers to stay OT to make up for my weakness coming back to work, like they did last Wed and Fri delivery days)

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30 min fast walk, with no need for 75 yard jog to catch that bus. I had to stand and wait for the first time since my walking speed improved.

Exhausted now. Can't wait 'til Fri.....first full pay since Jan 29.

Will get full, balanced grocery load this weekend. I will recover faster with more food.
 

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20 + 20 + 20=60 min steady walks plus 8 hour(6.75 hr)work duties.
Passed out early evening and feel rested by middle of night. Hungry too. Will have tuna and mayo and sweet potato and defrosted broccoli and a decaf with almond milk then huge bowl of oatmeal before I leave.

The first warm-ish day of the year.
I will try biking in a tshirt this weekend finally.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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