"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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seanconnery

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No, not really, but here's a chat log, beginning to end:

B: you know, you're a bit more transparent than you think you are
A: :-o
A: sounds too acme.
B: what sounds too acme
A: last i checked photons still bounce off me.
A: but please, continue.
B: i'm sure you know what i mean
A: mmm?
B: oh? you dont'?
B: don't believe that for a second.
A: i hope you don't think i'm a homo.
B: heh no i dont. you're too homophobic!
B: and oh well,i'll let you figure it out if you havent already
B: gonna go now
B: cyaa

I'd been going real heavy c/f on the victim earlier that night at a school event, and I pulled a "I think you're hanging around after class to get a chance to talk to me" earlier this week. Contact has been sparse - no more than a hi every few days in RL, and I'm rarely on IM.

Seems like she's just trying to throw the game back in my face, but I'm not sure. First time someone's done this - I'm not quite sure how to react, or if to react at all. Might try to bring it up come next week and lure her into the subject again and brush it off immediately with a "Bah, you and your sick sexual fantasies."

Anyone have a better idea?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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ShizamDaMan

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I don't see any C+F in that convo. I don't even know who's who.
 

seanconnery

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A = me
B = her

Was tired, and she'd popped on and caught me at a bad time. The convo was on IM, mind you.

I'm pretty ****y, if not funny, in person. Still working on the humor bit.
 

Smooth as Anything

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No more ****ing AIM logs, thank you.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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She's saying you shallow. Go into the HS Bible and find Matrix's post on why ****y and Funny isn't the be-all end-all of how to act. I think it's exactly what you need to hear.
 

Porky

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FVCK AIM.

IT'S USELESS.

YOU CAN'T PICK UP WOMEN OVER IT.

STOP POSTIN LOGS.
 
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