"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Chick not comfortable with meeting at my house...Advice

PrettyBoyAJ

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If you haven't slept with a chick after 3 dates it's time to cut it off. No questions about that. 3 dates and she hasn't come to the house? Sounds like she is using you for a free meal and some attention.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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dustmuffin

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PrettyBoyAJ said:
If you haven't slept with a chick after 3 dates it's time to cut it off. No questions about that. 3 dates and she hasn't come to the house? Sounds like she is using you for a free meal and some attention.
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That's what I'm thinking. I have had three drink dates with her. I'm leaning toward following the advice of some posters and asking her over to cook a meal together. I really don't want to be her free etertainment.


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How old is this chickiepoo @dustmuffin ?
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She is 40, I'm 52.
 
dustmuffin

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She agreed to come over and grill and watch the basketball game on sunday.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Thanks everybody for the advice. I appreciate it very much.
 
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dustmuffin said:
She said she thought I might be married because I didn't ask her out on the weekend.
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Very good sign... she is clearly VERY interested.

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I told her to come over and meet my wife. She said if she was hot we could have a threesome. Talked about sexual topics.
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Nice response, Good job. When a women gets all serious about anything tease her a bit and try to turn it sexual.

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That she hoped I wasn't mad that she wouldn't come home with me. Told me not to be a stranger that she wanted to go out again....She also sent me a text again asking if I was mad.
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Okay... how did you ask her out the last time? Did you make a date on the spot? If you did, and you didn't do the same after date 2 then she is trying to rationalize your actions, meaning she is thinking about you. When a women reaches out to you she expects you to make a date. If you want to go out with her, go ahead and make a date. Keep doing what you are doing, don't stop asking her to come back with you, trust me. She wants you to keep pushing for sex because that is what a MAN does. But you make her feel comfortable and confident when you don't let her rebuff effect you.
 
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RangerMIke said:
Very good sign... she is clearly VERY interested.

Nice response, Good job. When a women gets all serious about anything tease her a bit and try to turn it sexual.

Okay... how did you ask her out the last time? Did you make a date on the spot? If you did, and you didn't do the same after date 2 then she is trying to rationalize your actions, meaning she is thinking about you. When a women reaches out to you she expects you to make a date. If you want to go out with her, go ahead and make a date. Keep doing what you are doing, don't stop asking her to come back with you, trust me. She wants you to keep pushing for sex because that is what a MAN does. But you make her feel comfortable and confident when you don't let her rebuff effect you.
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I waited 2 or three days to ask her out. I text very little with her. I will defiantly be escalating on sunday.
 
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