PrettyBoyAJ
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If you haven't slept with a chick after 3 dates it's time to cut it off. No questions about that. 3 dates and she hasn't come to the house? Sounds like she is using you for a free meal and some attention.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Chick not comfortable with meeting at my house...Advice
- Thread starter dustmuffin
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
CMNILS87
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How old is this chickiepoo @dustmuffin ?
dustmuffin
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That's what I'm thinking. I have had three drink dates with her. I'm leaning toward following the advice of some posters and asking her over to cook a meal together. I really don't want to be her free etertainment.
She is 40, I'm 52.
dustmuffin
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She agreed to come over and grill and watch the basketball game on sunday.
CMNILS87
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Game over bro, good work. Now threaten her with a good time.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
dustmuffin
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Thanks everybody for the advice. I appreciate it very much.
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The pum pum is ready.
RangerMIke
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Very good sign... she is clearly VERY interested.
Nice response, Good job. When a women gets all serious about anything tease her a bit and try to turn it sexual.
Okay... how did you ask her out the last time? Did you make a date on the spot? If you did, and you didn't do the same after date 2 then she is trying to rationalize your actions, meaning she is thinking about you. When a women reaches out to you she expects you to make a date. If you want to go out with her, go ahead and make a date. Keep doing what you are doing, don't stop asking her to come back with you, trust me. She wants you to keep pushing for sex because that is what a MAN does. But you make her feel comfortable and confident when you don't let her rebuff effect you.
dustmuffin
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I waited 2 or three days to ask her out. I text very little with her. I will defiantly be escalating on sunday.