PrettyBoyAJ
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If you haven't slept with a chick after 3 dates it's time to cut it off. No questions about that. 3 dates and she hasn't come to the house? Sounds like she is using you for a free meal and some attention.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Chick not comfortable with meeting at my house...Advice
- Thread starter dustmuffin
- Start date
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
CMNILS87
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How old is this chickiepoo @dustmuffin ?
dustmuffin
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That's what I'm thinking. I have had three drink dates with her. I'm leaning toward following the advice of some posters and asking her over to cook a meal together. I really don't want to be her free etertainment.
She is 40, I'm 52.
dustmuffin
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She agreed to come over and grill and watch the basketball game on sunday.
CMNILS87
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Game over bro, good work. Now threaten her with a good time.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
dustmuffin
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Thanks everybody for the advice. I appreciate it very much.
grayclif
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The pum pum is ready.
RangerMIke
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Very good sign... she is clearly VERY interested.
Nice response, Good job. When a women gets all serious about anything tease her a bit and try to turn it sexual.
Okay... how did you ask her out the last time? Did you make a date on the spot? If you did, and you didn't do the same after date 2 then she is trying to rationalize your actions, meaning she is thinking about you. When a women reaches out to you she expects you to make a date. If you want to go out with her, go ahead and make a date. Keep doing what you are doing, don't stop asking her to come back with you, trust me. She wants you to keep pushing for sex because that is what a MAN does. But you make her feel comfortable and confident when you don't let her rebuff effect you.
dustmuffin
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I waited 2 or three days to ask her out. I text very little with her. I will defiantly be escalating on sunday.