PrettyBoyAJ
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If you haven't slept with a chick after 3 dates it's time to cut it off. No questions about that. 3 dates and she hasn't come to the house? Sounds like she is using you for a free meal and some attention.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Chick not comfortable with meeting at my house...Advice
- Thread starter dustmuffin
- Start date
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
CMNILS87
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How old is this chickiepoo @dustmuffin ?
dustmuffin
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That's what I'm thinking. I have had three drink dates with her. I'm leaning toward following the advice of some posters and asking her over to cook a meal together. I really don't want to be her free etertainment.
She is 40, I'm 52.
dustmuffin
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She agreed to come over and grill and watch the basketball game on sunday.
CMNILS87
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Game over bro, good work. Now threaten her with a good time.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
dustmuffin
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Thanks everybody for the advice. I appreciate it very much.
grayclif
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The pum pum is ready.
RangerMIke
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Very good sign... she is clearly VERY interested.
Nice response, Good job. When a women gets all serious about anything tease her a bit and try to turn it sexual.
Okay... how did you ask her out the last time? Did you make a date on the spot? If you did, and you didn't do the same after date 2 then she is trying to rationalize your actions, meaning she is thinking about you. When a women reaches out to you she expects you to make a date. If you want to go out with her, go ahead and make a date. Keep doing what you are doing, don't stop asking her to come back with you, trust me. She wants you to keep pushing for sex because that is what a MAN does. But you make her feel comfortable and confident when you don't let her rebuff effect you.
dustmuffin
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I waited 2 or three days to ask her out. I text very little with her. I will defiantly be escalating on sunday.