"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Chick checking out my shoes...

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So, I walked around the Hollywood areas last night (clubs everywhere), and I was jotting down keys on my cellphones texting a friend. Another friend of mine was walking behind me, and we passed by a group of folks, one of them was a chick. I just glanced forward to make sure that I didn't bump into them, happened to make a small eye contact to her. She was quite hot, wearing a short short, exposing her long legs. My attention went back to my cellphone. After we passed by, my friend said to me, "that chick was checking out your shoes".

I was wearing black pants, black shoes, and black socks, it's tough to notice anything and and I don't think there was anything to look at on my shoes. I am still wondering at what this body language means. I have never run into chicks looking down at my shoes.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Cr1msonKing said:
Wow, you are extremely over analyzing this situation right now bro.

I was prone to this too when I first started to reprogram myself and learning new things about social interactions with people and especially girls.

Just sit down and think for a moment, was it that big of a deal.
I am asking questions about female body language. I am not insecure about my shoes, foo.
 

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lol, so what if she looked at your shoes!!! big deal! maybe she thought your shoes looked gay, or black was her favorite color. what's gonna happen next time a girl looks at your shirt? are you gonna over analyze that too?
 

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And this is a great opener !

"Hey ! Why are you looking at my shoes ?" or stuff like that... ;)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Buy some blue suede shoes and tell her your name is Elvis.
 

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she was a buyer for Bloomingdale's and just doing her job.
 

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Oh you know what?

She thought you were gorgeous and she looked down on your shoes to memorize them.

Later she'll spend 13242354 hours to find your shoes online just to check out the store you bought them hoping to see you there once a year...

And if she succeeds, you'll marry her.

Yeah, that's what "this body language" means.

Good luck in finding your long legged princess.
 

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Dude, it can mean many things.....maybe she thought they were ugly, maybe she thought they were some expensive fashionable kind...we don't know.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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You shoulda punched her in the teeth...clearly she was challenging your alphaness.
 

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oakraiderz2 said:
You shoulda punched her in the teeth...clearly she was challenging your alphaness.
Actually, he should have just kicked her right smack in her huge hairy testicles. That should put his shoes too good use.
 

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Dude, it wasn't your shoes! It was that damn stain on your pants....or she could be checking your a$$. Who cares?

This is a good reason to always take care of your shoes I suppose.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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