You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
0:40-0:48 Whatever problems exist within "The System" at present (The absence of shared parenting legislation disproportionately affects men. Childcare being tough to access in many parts of The Anglosphere makes life more complicated for working women and their husband's alike. The list could go on), the fundamentals of human existence haven't changed... Stop making your own self-care a priority, and the obvious consequences will befall you. Everyone from your lovers, colleagues, and acquaintes will begin to vanish. Why? Because miserable people are contagious
Yup, this does happen.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Finding women who engage in regular self-reflection, and who cultivate their minds with material such asEven though the cat’s out of the bag, men aren’t going to put women in line any time soon.
Considering the aims of most on this board, I’ve often wondered why anyone wants good behavior from women
Women are born savage and most are inherently not marriage material. They need to be raised right and their behavior policed by family and society to be so as was historically done. Otherwise you get the sh-t in the videos the OP routinely posts.Finding women who engage in regular self-reflection, and who cultivate their minds with material such as(Especially everything said between 15:00-17:35 22:00-23:12 24:20-24:50 33:48-34:25) , rather than getting their entire perspective from Julia Fox's podcast, drastically reduces the level of melodrama a man invites into his existence, right off the bat
Yeah, one has to hunt around for high-quality women like these, just as one has to hunt around for well-paying employers who treat their workers respectfully, nutritious food, etc etc. Such is life
They're human beings, in other words. When behaviors like being well-groomed/Not leaving the house looking like a ragamuffinThey need to be raised right and their behavior policed by family and society...
Does that go for telling daughters not to leave the house with their vulvas showing?Not leaving the house looking like a ragamuffin
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
If she isn't having and initiating sex regularly when married chances are this is true.Unfortunately very true. So many guys don't understand that just because she's married to you it doesn't mean she's attracted to you.
Even just getting married doesn't mean much.If she isn't having and initiating sex regularly when married chances are this is true.
Is there a recourse for men who want to get married and start a family? Got any tips?So many guys don't understand that just because she's married to you it doesn't mean she's attracted to you.
Yep, along with reminding their/our sons that walking around with their asses and underwear hanging out, despite the fact they're wearing jeans or slacks + Speaking exclusively in either ebonics or Internet jargon reflects poorly on MEN as a classDoes that go for telling daughters not to leave the house with their vulvas showing?
Always make sure that she has high genuine attraction to you and get an enforceable prenuptial. Always do your due diligence with a woman.Is there a recourse for men who want to get married and start a family? Got any tips?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Absolutely!!! Undesirable and asinine as MeToo was, women didn't/haven't stop drenching themselves over 50 Shades, 365 Days, and the like. If anything, heterosexual chicks are MORE hungry for male assertiveness and leadership than usualThat means this is the best time to be a DJ
Sex diminishes greatly after getting married (ask almost any married guy) and in many cases comes to a grinding halt (15-20% of all marriages are sexless). Other people quit taking care of themselves or even caring because "I'm married, what does it matter." It's a strong sign someone is cheating if they suddenly start really caring about appearance again.Even just getting married doesn't mean much.
Ever notice chubby recently divorced women start looking good again? Hmmm.Sex diminishes greatly after getting married (ask almost any married guy) and in many cases comes to a grinding halt (15-20% of all marriages are sexless). Other people quit taking care of themselves or even caring because "I'm married, what does it matter." It's a strong sign someone is cheating if they suddenly start really caring about appearance again.
Could there be a connection between folks not looking after themselves once married and so many unions becoming sexless? This is a greater mystery than a question such as: "Does colonialism bear some(Though certainly not all)responsibility fot the so-called 3rd World being a violent, repressive shi-hole today?"Sex diminishes greatly after getting married (ask almost any married guy) and in many cases comes to a grinding halt (15-20% of all marriages are sexless). Other people quit taking care of themselves or even caring because "I'm married, what does it matter."
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.