"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Cheating
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Unless the committed relationship you are in is an open relationship where you two can go find other people to screw your brains out with but still remain together.
Then it would be ok otherwise no its cheating.
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I always draw the same rules. You can go to dinner, have a date with someone, kiss them, whatever. Competition is fair play. Whatever you do, just TELL ME about it right away. If you kiss somebody, no big deal. If you sleep with them, that's cool too but we're over.
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Are you sexing her?Vikman said:
There is no such thing as "cheating" if you are having sex with her and not married!! You can only cheat on your wife - which is a committed relationship!
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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No - the same applies! You are merely sex partners - nothing more! No such thing as B/F G/F!LovelyLady said:
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Of course. We must have absolute double standards. If a women even looks at another guy she is cheating. But as long as a man uses a condom, so technically there was no skin contact between the dong and the V, then it's clearly not cheating.LovelyLady said:
