"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
charmer or jerk?
- Thread starter nosmirk
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
PigAdlemPimp
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everywomanshero
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Being "too nice" and being a jerk are both types of insecurity. They are afraid to just truly be themselves and just "be", so they try to compensate by acting aloof, trying hard to act cool or like they don't care, becoming dismissive or never asking a woman out to protect their fragile male egos from rejection.
This stuff repulses women as they know an insecure, needy man like a guy can spot a 500lbs fat chick with warts.
Skilla_Staz
Master Don Juan
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Naturally the Charmer, would be the better of the 2.
-Intelligence
-Tact
-Savvy
-Suave
-Power
-Courage (cause charmer's usually take risks)
-Class (status)
etc etc etc.
A jerk, while he might have a spine and some balls... lacks the elegance of higher ground.
He's like a lump of coal, yet to be refined into his diamond potential (a Charmer).
Answer is clear!
A greater point to this thread... might be for the original poster to discuss his confusion as to why this is even a question.
Then maybe others will be able to untangle themselves from such lines of thought.
Peace'