"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
charmer or jerk?
- Thread starter nosmirk
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
PigAdlemPimp
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everywomanshero
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Being "too nice" and being a jerk are both types of insecurity. They are afraid to just truly be themselves and just "be", so they try to compensate by acting aloof, trying hard to act cool or like they don't care, becoming dismissive or never asking a woman out to protect their fragile male egos from rejection.
This stuff repulses women as they know an insecure, needy man like a guy can spot a 500lbs fat chick with warts.
Skilla_Staz
Master Don Juan
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Naturally the Charmer, would be the better of the 2.
-Intelligence
-Tact
-Savvy
-Suave
-Power
-Courage (cause charmer's usually take risks)
-Class (status)
etc etc etc.
A jerk, while he might have a spine and some balls... lacks the elegance of higher ground.
He's like a lump of coal, yet to be refined into his diamond potential (a Charmer).
Answer is clear!
A greater point to this thread... might be for the original poster to discuss his confusion as to why this is even a question.
Then maybe others will be able to untangle themselves from such lines of thought.
Peace'