"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
charmer or jerk?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
PigAdlemPimp
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Being "too nice" and being a jerk are both types of insecurity. They are afraid to just truly be themselves and just "be", so they try to compensate by acting aloof, trying hard to act cool or like they don't care, becoming dismissive or never asking a woman out to protect their fragile male egos from rejection.
This stuff repulses women as they know an insecure, needy man like a guy can spot a 500lbs fat chick with warts.
Skilla_Staz
Master Don Juan
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Naturally the Charmer, would be the better of the 2.
-Intelligence
-Tact
-Savvy
-Suave
-Power
-Courage (cause charmer's usually take risks)
-Class (status)
etc etc etc.
A jerk, while he might have a spine and some balls... lacks the elegance of higher ground.
He's like a lump of coal, yet to be refined into his diamond potential (a Charmer).
Answer is clear!
A greater point to this thread... might be for the original poster to discuss his confusion as to why this is even a question.
Then maybe others will be able to untangle themselves from such lines of thought.
Peace'