"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Charisma Development??

escobar04

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hey fellas, havent been on in a long while

I was just wondering if there are ways to develop charisma thus being a more fun person to be around?

or is it just something you're born with? or does it have to do with just having a "I dont give a fcuk" attitude?

thanks!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Charisma is a combination of things.
Appearance, body language, and posture, tone of voice, facial expressions, interesting conversationalist, and being proper, poised, and saying the right thing at the right time.
 

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Interceptor said:
Charisma is a combination of things.
Appearance, body language, and posture, tone of voice, facial expressions, interesting conversationalist, and being proper, poised, and saying the right thing at the right time.
Said like this, it looks hard to be charismatic :D
 

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You're right. It means you have to have.....a Personality.


So much for that one, huh???
:)
Oh well, there's always more MM, and Deangelo..and money for everyone else.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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BannedGod said:
Said like this, it looks hard to be charismatic :D
How about this, being charismatic is like spinning plates, but it's in real time using all the people who are around you. :up:
 

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jt the azn said:
Like anything else in life, practice makes perfect.
Actually, that's not an acurate statement. Perfect practice makes perfect. One can practice something the wrong way, and they'll learn how to do it perfectly wrong.
 

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drummer said:
Hence the phrase my drum teacher always used to say... "Practice makes PERMANENT"
Wow, I like that one too. He's right.
 

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Interceptor said:
Charisma is a combination of things.
Appearance, body language, and posture, tone of voice, facial expressions, interesting conversationalist, and being proper, poised, and saying the right thing at the right time.
So... appearance development? body language development? posture development? tone of voice development? "being proper" development?

and the most difficult of all?

saying the right thing at the right time development?

Do I have to buy ebooks for all that stuff, or if I just keep appraoching girls in clubs will this all magically come to me?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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drummer said:
Hence the phrase my drum teacher always used to say... "Practice makes PERMANENT"
I've always liked that saying because no matter how much you practice, perfection is questionable; especially if you're practicing something that's not quite right.
 

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you have to be comfortable with yourself.. and when you are, if people aren't having fun being around you, fyck them, and find people who can relate.
 
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