over the holidays i was working alot of confidence and approaching and now that im back at tech im quite abit more confident etccc (not hard out pua kinda ****) and i seem to have this weird feeling in my stomach over the last few days for the start of uni i think because in these group activities everyone is putting me as leader and stuff like that and it feels like im not myself anymore and my stomach feels kinda weird its fuct up :/
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
changing from AFC to alpha/leader.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
diablo
Master Don Juan
Being made "group leader" at a technical college doesn't make you "alpha". As for the weird feeling in your stomach, go to a doctor. 
that was just an example, and its not a title there is no actual leader its just that everyone is trying to report to me and trying to get my approval. Im at university, not technical collegeOriginally posted by diablo
Being made "group leader" at a technical college doesn't make you "alpha". As for the weird feeling in your stomach, go to a doctor.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Don_Joffe
Senior Don Juan
ya im currently doin a bootcamp and i find it harder to say hi to hot girls, so what im trying to do is think of them as just average girls and then give myself a punishment eg. no food for 12 hours IF i dont greet the hot girls.
You should try it, I got other wayz of approaching hot girls... if you want to know just ask.
You should try it, I got other wayz of approaching hot girls... if you want to know just ask.
Don_Joffe
Senior Don Juan
You bulking and you expecting hot girls to notice you?
Lol. Wrong way to go about it, ya it will help but it wont make you "hotter." You either have the looks or you dont.
ERm, Ill PM you tommorw, im kinda busy now.
Lol. Wrong way to go about it, ya it will help but it wont make you "hotter." You either have the looks or you dont.
ERm, Ill PM you tommorw, im kinda busy now.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.