"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Challenge#1: Create A Neg 2005
- Thread starter Swoop
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
SynapsyS
Don Juan
These were field tested yesterday.
Me: I like your hair today, especially the bits sticking out at odd angles.
Her reaction: SHUTTUP, THE RAIN MAKES MY HAIR GO WEIRD. You're mean
. Me: You shouldn't blame your hair.
Her: ... =O (tickles me)
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Her: I got 70 for my aviation exam!
Me: 70? Hey, thats not *too* bad at all. Well done.
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Me: Not ANOTHER clothing shop?! I mean, you have great taste in clothes, but your obsession is just a *little* creepy
Her: (playpunches me in the ribs)
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I'm sure I'll remember some more later, but those were the best ones. I basically negged her, kino'd her, and C&F'd her ALL day. We went to the city for lunch, and we both had to get new shoes (never, ever, go shopping with a girl. Not a dating mistake, but 3 hours later....ugh
Still, I did go back to her house afterwards...)The Nice Guy is Gone
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This I got from that hearing their steps post, and something I heard tonight. BTW, I didn't approach anyone tonight because I was watching the game, was tire, and was not in the mood.
Anyways: You hear this hb walking b/c her shoes are loud;
me: Those are nice shoes, if you want me to hear you coming from a mile away.
What do you think?
That may just be mean--but I don't know; I'll have to try it out sometime
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
SynapsyS
Don Juan
That'll get you slapped. Or she'll just cry.
I agree with Swoop (partially). The point of a neg hit is to both compliment her and insult her, all in the same phrase, so it confuses the hell out of her, and all the other things it does (read: bible).
I'll try some more out today on some of my girl friends, see how they respond. Knowing one in particular, i'ma have sore ribs when I get back.
Syn.
qweretyuiopas
Master Don Juan
I think that comment from dirtyvibe was a joke I think he purposely said an insult because so many of you were sayin those were insults so he just threw out a obvious insult that was quite funny I might add, if im wrong dirtyvibe tell me.
redline
Don Juan
snakebite=beer+cider+red cordialOriginally posted by almost perfect
turns tongue red
turns stomach inside out
MasterYoda
Don Juan
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
almost perfect
Don Juan
unfortunately because of this thread there may be quite a few more girls out there getting insulted under the guise of a neg hit.
syncmaster
Master Don Juan
qweretyuiopas
Master Don Juan
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