"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Giovanni Casanova
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Cloudtopsun2100
Senior Don Juan
tell her the connection was not emotional at all. girlfriends tend to get really pissed off about emotions and you the bf having feelings for a girl can outweigh the physical stuff you do. Hope she doesn't catch you.. good luck
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
GREAT WHITE SHARK
Master Don Juan
If you think, having a gf is not the same as being married.
when you are in a gf bf situation, you are still kinda free to experiment.
I realized that after my gf cheated on me, and I then knew I could do the same... experiment. .. I like her, maybe we will get married, maybe not, but today it is still a bf gf system, not a husband wife. Then its different, on this situation, cant there be cheating, otherwise the system is out of balance, there are problems.
My gf cheated on me, she regreated... but what I learned with that is I am "free" to do the same while we are not engaged.
If you are in a light ltr , go ahead, have fun, but respect at the same time the one person you are with.
The search for the one girl you wanna marry with will end some day, and how can you know who will be if you not try different ones?
Difficult to understand at the first time, but, thats life, thats people, it sucks? I dont know, but... thats the way it is...
Scrumtulescence
Master Don Juan
What the hell does that mean?
Looks like you're just trying to find justification for cheating on a girlfriend when you're pretending to be committed to her.
If you want to sleep around and "experiment", there's nothing wrong with that. Just drop your gf before you do it.
J*sus Holy $hit Chr*st. NEVER ADMIT ANYTHING.
If you're fool enough to cheat, make sure that your partners have NO ties to each other. NO mutual friends, NO mutual hobbies. F-ck, I have a buddy who uses different names with different girlfriends to maintain plausible deniability -- if a girl walks up to him with his "other" in, say, Macy's, he can say, "I'm sorry, I'm not X. A lot of guys have my face." (I thought I had Game until I met this guy.)
Homey don't cheat, BTW; I DO, however, date 2-3 girls at a time, and when I do, I make sure to cross-reference their hobbies, clubs they hang at, workplaces, etc. I try not even to date two girls who live in the same 'burb at the same time.
GREAT WHITE SHARK
Master Don Juan
what if she admits that cheated and regreats?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
See, you think that if you cheat and bring it up that she had done the same to you before, that she'll get regretful and apologize?
ha ha ha
Rule #2423: women are NEVER wrong....according to women.
She will find some crazy justification to her cheating, and tell you that YOU were wrong and that since you cheated, she wants nothing to do with you...except for child support.
Yes, I think you opened a big can of worms.
So, follow THIS advice. THIS ADVICE IS IMPORTANT!
NEVER ADMIT TO CHEATING!!!!! If she "finds out", blame whoever told her...if it was the girl you were sleeping with, tell your girlfriend that this girl is a psycho that was obsessed with you or whatnot. Do whatever it takes to make yourself look innocent.
When you have convinced her of your "innocence", drop her. IF you are no longer sexually attracted to her, then the relationship is over. Do this without giving her the info that you cheated, because if she has that, she also has her hands in your bank account forever.
You should've dropped her sorry ass when she cheated on you the first time. Now look where your AFCness has gotten you....
Modelling is a way for a princessy girl with low self esteem to feel like she's sexy. Same with porn.
Those girls are only worth the semen in your glands. Not your love, affection, respect, trust, nothing. Just sex.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.