"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Giovanni Casanova
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Cloudtopsun2100
Senior Don Juan
tell her the connection was not emotional at all. girlfriends tend to get really pissed off about emotions and you the bf having feelings for a girl can outweigh the physical stuff you do. Hope she doesn't catch you.. good luck
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
GREAT WHITE SHARK
Master Don Juan
If you think, having a gf is not the same as being married.
when you are in a gf bf situation, you are still kinda free to experiment.
I realized that after my gf cheated on me, and I then knew I could do the same... experiment. .. I like her, maybe we will get married, maybe not, but today it is still a bf gf system, not a husband wife. Then its different, on this situation, cant there be cheating, otherwise the system is out of balance, there are problems.
My gf cheated on me, she regreated... but what I learned with that is I am "free" to do the same while we are not engaged.
If you are in a light ltr , go ahead, have fun, but respect at the same time the one person you are with.
The search for the one girl you wanna marry with will end some day, and how can you know who will be if you not try different ones?
Difficult to understand at the first time, but, thats life, thats people, it sucks? I dont know, but... thats the way it is...
Scrumtulescence
Master Don Juan
What the hell does that mean?
Looks like you're just trying to find justification for cheating on a girlfriend when you're pretending to be committed to her.
If you want to sleep around and "experiment", there's nothing wrong with that. Just drop your gf before you do it.
J*sus Holy $hit Chr*st. NEVER ADMIT ANYTHING.
If you're fool enough to cheat, make sure that your partners have NO ties to each other. NO mutual friends, NO mutual hobbies. F-ck, I have a buddy who uses different names with different girlfriends to maintain plausible deniability -- if a girl walks up to him with his "other" in, say, Macy's, he can say, "I'm sorry, I'm not X. A lot of guys have my face." (I thought I had Game until I met this guy.)
Homey don't cheat, BTW; I DO, however, date 2-3 girls at a time, and when I do, I make sure to cross-reference their hobbies, clubs they hang at, workplaces, etc. I try not even to date two girls who live in the same 'burb at the same time.
GREAT WHITE SHARK
Master Don Juan
what if she admits that cheated and regreats?
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
See, you think that if you cheat and bring it up that she had done the same to you before, that she'll get regretful and apologize?
ha ha ha
Rule #2423: women are NEVER wrong....according to women.
She will find some crazy justification to her cheating, and tell you that YOU were wrong and that since you cheated, she wants nothing to do with you...except for child support.
Yes, I think you opened a big can of worms.
So, follow THIS advice. THIS ADVICE IS IMPORTANT!
NEVER ADMIT TO CHEATING!!!!! If she "finds out", blame whoever told her...if it was the girl you were sleeping with, tell your girlfriend that this girl is a psycho that was obsessed with you or whatnot. Do whatever it takes to make yourself look innocent.
When you have convinced her of your "innocence", drop her. IF you are no longer sexually attracted to her, then the relationship is over. Do this without giving her the info that you cheated, because if she has that, she also has her hands in your bank account forever.
You should've dropped her sorry ass when she cheated on you the first time. Now look where your AFCness has gotten you....
Modelling is a way for a princessy girl with low self esteem to feel like she's sexy. Same with porn.
Those girls are only worth the semen in your glands. Not your love, affection, respect, trust, nothing. Just sex.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.