"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Casual friends to lovers?

NickSCFC2000

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Has anyone here ever had experience of this?

Perhaps not best friends or even close friends, but work colleagues or classmates that you were friends with before you got into a relationship with them.

How did this work out for you, what experiences have you had, good OR bad
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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tsmith2334

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I'm working on that right now.

I try to stay in the "casual friend" zone with someone I'm interested in. It's kind of like backwards thinking (i.e. you don't want to get too close to them), but based on the laws of attraction, it should be the route to take.
 

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Beware of sexual tension though because if it exists and you mean to hold off the girl as "casual friends" until you plan on making the move, it'll be too late. She'll take you as either too much of a pu$$y or uninterested.
 

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These guys are noobs. Don't listen to 'em. :whistle:

The BEST relationships out there are people who start off casual friends...trust me. Almost every GF I've ever had started off as a casual friend (I don't have any close female friends...most girls my age are too damn flighty.)

Now, don't go trying to hang out with them all the time unless you've got the balls to make a move. They already like you for some reason if they agree to go out...make your intentions clear. It's much easier to be direct than play a bunch of fvcking games.
 

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MooseGod said:
These guys are noobs. Don't listen to 'em. :whistle:

The BEST relationships out there are people who start off casual friends...trust me. Almost every GF I've ever had started off as a casual friend (I don't have any close female friends...most girls my age are too damn flighty.)

Now, don't go trying to hang out with them all the time unless you've got the balls to make a move. They already like you for some reason if they agree to go out...make your intentions clear. It's much easier to be direct than play a bunch of fvcking games.
What do you mean by girls your age being flighty?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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tsmith2334

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MooseGod said:
These guys are noobs. Don't listen to 'em. :whistle:

The BEST relationships out there are people who start off casual friends...trust me. Almost every GF I've ever had started off as a casual friend
That's what I said before, dude. I try to keep a girl in the "casual friend" zone if I'm interested (before trying to escalate). The more the friendship flourishes, the more your chances of a relationship decrease.
 
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