Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Casual friends to lovers?

NickSCFC2000

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Has anyone here ever had experience of this?

Perhaps not best friends or even close friends, but work colleagues or classmates that you were friends with before you got into a relationship with them.

How did this work out for you, what experiences have you had, good OR bad
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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tsmith2334

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I'm working on that right now.

I try to stay in the "casual friend" zone with someone I'm interested in. It's kind of like backwards thinking (i.e. you don't want to get too close to them), but based on the laws of attraction, it should be the route to take.
 

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Beware of sexual tension though because if it exists and you mean to hold off the girl as "casual friends" until you plan on making the move, it'll be too late. She'll take you as either too much of a pu$$y or uninterested.
 

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These guys are noobs. Don't listen to 'em. :whistle:

The BEST relationships out there are people who start off casual friends...trust me. Almost every GF I've ever had started off as a casual friend (I don't have any close female friends...most girls my age are too damn flighty.)

Now, don't go trying to hang out with them all the time unless you've got the balls to make a move. They already like you for some reason if they agree to go out...make your intentions clear. It's much easier to be direct than play a bunch of fvcking games.
 

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MooseGod said:
These guys are noobs. Don't listen to 'em. :whistle:

The BEST relationships out there are people who start off casual friends...trust me. Almost every GF I've ever had started off as a casual friend (I don't have any close female friends...most girls my age are too damn flighty.)

Now, don't go trying to hang out with them all the time unless you've got the balls to make a move. They already like you for some reason if they agree to go out...make your intentions clear. It's much easier to be direct than play a bunch of fvcking games.
What do you mean by girls your age being flighty?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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tsmith2334

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MooseGod said:
These guys are noobs. Don't listen to 'em. :whistle:

The BEST relationships out there are people who start off casual friends...trust me. Almost every GF I've ever had started off as a casual friend
That's what I said before, dude. I try to keep a girl in the "casual friend" zone if I'm interested (before trying to escalate). The more the friendship flourishes, the more your chances of a relationship decrease.
 
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