"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Carry around a pad of paper?

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I use my cell phone, I flip it open, press "Add New Entry", then I have her dial her number into it. Call me old-fashioned, if you will.
 

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Originally posted by BrotherAP
I use my cell phone, I flip it open, press "Add New Entry", then I have her dial her number into it. Call me old-fashioned, if you will.
thanks

any advice for guys asking for email addresses too (other than "don't ask for email" lol)?
 

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e-mail?!?!! call me old fashioned but i still use a chain of beacons.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Forget that guys, I ask for their address and mail them a greeting card from Walmart, Nah the phone works best. ;)
 

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I wouldn't ask for an email address. Its too un-personal, or just something about saying "Hey HB can I have your email address" just makes mee feel nerdy. When talking to a HB, just say: "hey well talk to you later, I should call you sometime and we can hangout or go to a party", not too direct or indirect IMO.
 

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Originally posted by hungry_american
I wouldn't ask for an email address. Its too un-personal, or just something about saying "Hey HB can I have your email address" just makes mee feel nerdy. When talking to a HB, just say: "hey well talk to you later, I should call you sometime and we can hangout or go to a party", not too direct or indirect IMO.
thanks, i'm glad that works for you. i still want to get the email address though. any ideas? is a small notepad the way to go? i'm a student, so no business cards
 

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I tried that once, but then I realized pretty quick that if you come TOO WELL prepared, you definately lose points.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Sorry, I guess I didn't even try to answer your question. He is right. Don't come too prepared that would deffinatley lose points unless you had your binder with you at school but schools out. Alteast for me, forever :) Most girls cary purses or something lke a purse and have a pen or something to jot down anything and so just be like do you have something to write with and write it on any piece of paper or on your hand? I have no idea I guess. :confused:
 

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Originally posted by hungry_american
Sorry, I guess I didn't even try to answer your question. He is right. Don't come too prepared that would deffinatley lose points unless you had your binder with you at school but schools out. Alteast for me, forever :) Most girls cary purses or something lke a purse and have a pen or something to jot down anything and so just be like do you have something to write with and write it on any piece of paper or on your hand? I have no idea I guess. :confused:
thanks. yeah, i carry around a pen normally, but the piece of paper is the problem for me. i think a notepad would be too obvious right? maybe i should get tons of different people's business cards, and carry one of each person's card in my wallet, and have girls write on that?

any other ideas?
 

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Originally posted by LegalSeduction
you guys who get tons of numbers/email addresses.. do you carry around a pad of paper? where do you have the girl write her info?
lol.. ever heard of a cell phone phonebook? a pad of paper would be so lame. and dont even think about asking for email, not only is that stupid, but email is archaic these days... for work and keeping up with people you rarely see.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by LegalSeduction
you guys who get tons of numbers/email addresses.. do you carry around a pad of paper? where do you have the girl write her info?
Don't you have a cellphone?
 

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If you have a pen, but no paper then just write it on your hand (not the palm because ink smears easy)
 

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I used to carry one of those micro-marble notebooks and a small pen.

I would fill it up with "junk thoughts" so it didn't look like I was just a tremendous dog.

These days, I, like many above, just use the cell.
 

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If you're a student does that mean you have a diary with timetable and all that kinda crap? Well thats where you write emails. Works for me, except of course when they are sitting waiting for you to find a page not already covered in email addresses.;)
 
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