Lost my virginity a while ago; everytime me and my girl have sex she's on top and I don't have a problem with my erection. But when we try to switch it up aka doggy or missionary another night I lose my boner quick. Why is this happening?! I'm 20 and don't know what to do... Is it performance anxiety???
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Can't stay hard during sex
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
SharinganUser
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You should probably see a councilor or shrink about this.
Betamax
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Been there, get help. There is nothing wrong with your equipment either.
It could be for a number of reasons. Mine was worry over the size, due to seeing too many porn films with guys with donkey/horse dong size erections. Once I came to realised that my 'little' 6 3/4 inch one was normal and those in porn films are 'freaks' I was fine thanks to a councilor
It could be for a number of reasons. Mine was worry over the size, due to seeing too many porn films with guys with donkey/horse dong size erections. Once I came to realised that my 'little' 6 3/4 inch one was normal and those in porn films are 'freaks' I was fine thanks to a councilor
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I'd say performance anxiety. This kind of thing can happen if you are second guessing whether she's really enjoying herself or not.
Does she make lots of noise on top and really get off? Then when you switch she's not as vocal or you can't tell if she's enjoying herself as much?
Encourage her to be as vocal and animated as possible.
The same way you are concerned about her enjoying herself. She feels the same way. Remember that she really wants to blow your mind during sex. Don't be afraid to be a little selfish. Go for it. The more passionate you are the more she will get turned on and of course the whole thing snowballs.
Does she make lots of noise on top and really get off? Then when you switch she's not as vocal or you can't tell if she's enjoying herself as much?
Encourage her to be as vocal and animated as possible.
The same way you are concerned about her enjoying herself. She feels the same way. Remember that she really wants to blow your mind during sex. Don't be afraid to be a little selfish. Go for it. The more passionate you are the more she will get turned on and of course the whole thing snowballs.
Mr.Positive
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This is very good advise. Gain confidence in your abilities and you will overcome this.samspade said:
This is a fun challenge, enjoy it!
TheBucketOfTruth
Master Don Juan
It's just nerves. I went through the same thing early on.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.