Lost my virginity a while ago; everytime me and my girl have sex she's on top and I don't have a problem with my erection. But when we try to switch it up aka doggy or missionary another night I lose my boner quick. Why is this happening?! I'm 20 and don't know what to do... Is it performance anxiety???
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Can't stay hard during sex
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
SharinganUser
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You should probably see a councilor or shrink about this.
Betamax
Don Juan
Been there, get help. There is nothing wrong with your equipment either.
It could be for a number of reasons. Mine was worry over the size, due to seeing too many porn films with guys with donkey/horse dong size erections. Once I came to realised that my 'little' 6 3/4 inch one was normal and those in porn films are 'freaks' I was fine thanks to a councilor
It could be for a number of reasons. Mine was worry over the size, due to seeing too many porn films with guys with donkey/horse dong size erections. Once I came to realised that my 'little' 6 3/4 inch one was normal and those in porn films are 'freaks' I was fine thanks to a councilor
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I'd say performance anxiety. This kind of thing can happen if you are second guessing whether she's really enjoying herself or not.
Does she make lots of noise on top and really get off? Then when you switch she's not as vocal or you can't tell if she's enjoying herself as much?
Encourage her to be as vocal and animated as possible.
The same way you are concerned about her enjoying herself. She feels the same way. Remember that she really wants to blow your mind during sex. Don't be afraid to be a little selfish. Go for it. The more passionate you are the more she will get turned on and of course the whole thing snowballs.
Does she make lots of noise on top and really get off? Then when you switch she's not as vocal or you can't tell if she's enjoying herself as much?
Encourage her to be as vocal and animated as possible.
The same way you are concerned about her enjoying herself. She feels the same way. Remember that she really wants to blow your mind during sex. Don't be afraid to be a little selfish. Go for it. The more passionate you are the more she will get turned on and of course the whole thing snowballs.
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This is very good advise. Gain confidence in your abilities and you will overcome this.samspade said:
This is a fun challenge, enjoy it!
TheBucketOfTruth
Master Don Juan
It's just nerves. I went through the same thing early on.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.