Lost my virginity a while ago; everytime me and my girl have sex she's on top and I don't have a problem with my erection. But when we try to switch it up aka doggy or missionary another night I lose my boner quick. Why is this happening?! I'm 20 and don't know what to do... Is it performance anxiety???
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Can't stay hard during sex
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
SharinganUser
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You should probably see a councilor or shrink about this.
Betamax
Don Juan
Been there, get help. There is nothing wrong with your equipment either.
It could be for a number of reasons. Mine was worry over the size, due to seeing too many porn films with guys with donkey/horse dong size erections. Once I came to realised that my 'little' 6 3/4 inch one was normal and those in porn films are 'freaks' I was fine thanks to a councilor
It could be for a number of reasons. Mine was worry over the size, due to seeing too many porn films with guys with donkey/horse dong size erections. Once I came to realised that my 'little' 6 3/4 inch one was normal and those in porn films are 'freaks' I was fine thanks to a councilor
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I'd say performance anxiety. This kind of thing can happen if you are second guessing whether she's really enjoying herself or not.
Does she make lots of noise on top and really get off? Then when you switch she's not as vocal or you can't tell if she's enjoying herself as much?
Encourage her to be as vocal and animated as possible.
The same way you are concerned about her enjoying herself. She feels the same way. Remember that she really wants to blow your mind during sex. Don't be afraid to be a little selfish. Go for it. The more passionate you are the more she will get turned on and of course the whole thing snowballs.
Does she make lots of noise on top and really get off? Then when you switch she's not as vocal or you can't tell if she's enjoying herself as much?
Encourage her to be as vocal and animated as possible.
The same way you are concerned about her enjoying herself. She feels the same way. Remember that she really wants to blow your mind during sex. Don't be afraid to be a little selfish. Go for it. The more passionate you are the more she will get turned on and of course the whole thing snowballs.
Mr.Positive
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This is very good advise. Gain confidence in your abilities and you will overcome this.samspade said:
This is a fun challenge, enjoy it!
TheBucketOfTruth
Master Don Juan
It's just nerves. I went through the same thing early on.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.