"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Can't get this mindset about females out of my head

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idk the thought of the girl you take on a date has probably had sex with 5 different guys and crap kind grosses me out. I know it's immature, so how do I get this out of my head?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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JPlaya said:
idk the thought of the girl you take on a date has probably had sex with 5 different guys and crap kind grosses me out. I know it's immature, so how do I get this out of my head?
As far as median averages go, girls have had sex with twice as many guys than the guys have had with girls.....there's the 5% of guys have been screwing much more than their share. They're the ones who don't kiss and tell any where it would screw up the reputation of the girls.

The attitude of being grossed out gives off a vibe self-perpetuates the girls seeking out the 5% that aren't grossed out by the fact that all people have sex except for those who want to be weeded out of the gene pool.

Fact: Girls are having sex with the really cool guys who have purpose and strong willpower and decisiveness and keep their mouths shut/no gossip about sexual exploits etc etc etc. Get over it and join the 5% or stay with the 95% that's not getting lots of punani.
 

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10% of the guys do 90% of the f**king. :yawn:

I'm working on getting in this 10%. :yes:

Women can get sex anytime she wants to. Most men don't have that luxury. :eek:

Men getting with women isn't a job interview or 1 vs. 100, but it might as well be because she's trying to decide if you're fit enough for her compared to the 100 other guys who are after her. And all she has to do is say yes or no. If a man says no to her, she won't be hurt. She'll have another man in a New York second. :eek:

Women are so much better at banding together to raise the price of pu$$y than men are to lower the price of it. :mad:

The point is: Women ALWAYS have options. You need to do likewise. And be among the best (OR THE BEST) option she has. :yes:

Case closed.
 

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JPlaya said:
idk the thought of the girl you take on a date has probably had sex with 5 different guys and crap kind grosses me out. I know it's immature, so how do I get this out of my head?
I used to feel like this until I saw the big picture and realised that that's just life. Women you go with have been with tonnes of men before you, and there will be tonnes more after. People move on.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Are you really unhappy about the number of guys girls bang?
Or are you insecure because your number is low and they have more experience than you?
If so, get out there and get more experience.
By any means necessary.
 

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What the other guys said above.

As far as getting it out of your head, you don't. You either put it in the back of your mind, or convince yourself you don't give a fvck and there is nothing you can do about it anyway.
 

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Fairly true thinking. But we've got nothin' to do with this, it's really none of our godddamn bizz.....

Try bein' her best fucck if you wanna. No time to be listenin' to her " just-two-previous-sex-partners", "i value my body a lot" or "i'm not like other girls" story.

"she say she only **** like four, five niggazz... So you know you gotta multiply by three"
- J.Cole: Nobody's Perfect.

Go DJ.
 

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JPlaya said:
idk the thought of the girl you take on a date has probably had sex with 5 different guys and crap kind grosses me out. I know it's immature, so how do I get this out of my head?
Well, don't go on sex sites to meet women if you are worried they are seeing 5 guys before they see you that day.
 

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5string said:
What the other guys said above.

As far as getting it out of your head, you don't. You either put it in the back of your mind, or convince yourself you don't give a fvck and there is nothing you can do about it anyway.
That doesn't work because you'll see her as a slvt and it will come out subconciously in other ways. I tried to do this with some women and I remember I offended a girl twice by asking questions that betrayed this sublimination. For example, I asked one girl how many guys she slept with when she said she's been with other guys. Another girl I asked her who these guys were coming around the car where she lived and I felt threatened and ask her if she sleept with any of them them? Once that slvt image is formed in your head and you put it on the back of your mind it can explode like a bomb.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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It's probably better to go with an escort or prostitute that's been with 1000 of guys to get rid of this mentality. First of all, once you take that plunge then if you slept with a girl that's been with thousands of guys, then chances are you won't care if you meet a girl that has been with 5 guys. How can you? It would be hypocritical to judge a girl that's been with 5 guys when you just paid to sleep with one who has probably seen 5 guys that same day and has been with thousands. Second of all, as long as you have some money, then you have plenty of options with these escorts/hoes and if you don't then you have other issues in life worst than getting girls.

As you guessed it I'm just kidding. I've never been with a prostitute or escort myself, although with all the sh1t crappy quality of women out there the, the thought has crossed my mind since I'll just it would make me less judgmental since most women are hoes anyway. Some alpha-make douchebag probably hot into her pants or gagged her and probably taped it while you are thinking here is a nice quality woman. ha ha ha. Some of these 5% of guys probably have hidden cameras and upload stuff to porn sites for money.
 

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I don't base it on how many guys they were with, but how jaded they are. If they are beautiful, sweet (and tight) then who cares?
 

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Who cares? If she is with u now, then u can be the best one so far, which makes all the other men in her past worthless.
 

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corrector said:
That doesn't work because you'll see her as a slvt and it will come out subconciously in other ways. I tried to do this with some women and I remember I offended a girl twice by asking questions that betrayed this sublimination. For example, I asked one girl how many guys she slept with when she said she's been with other guys. Another girl I asked her who these guys were coming around the car where she lived and I felt threatened and ask her if she sleept with any of them them? Once that slvt image is formed in your head and you put it on the back of your mind it can explode like a bomb.
Have to disagree brother. I banged tons of women over the course of my life. Guess that makes me a slvt huh? Because I did that, does it me a trashy fvckin guy not worthy of a great partner? No way. Same goes for females. To sit here and think that women can't go get some when they need it is ludicrous. Face it, they get horny just like us. May I dare say that this is a double standard?

And your problem was that you asked. Big, big mistake. Don't ask and you won't become "threatened."

Don't ask, don't tell. Just be the man and give your woman what she desires.
 

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O.P don't worry about it! I'm sure you'll hear: "I've been with a few guys but you're the 'best' baby." LMAO
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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remotecontrol said:
To the Op...there are two types of woman...the women you have sex with and don't care about and the women you have sex with an do care about.
it only ever bothered me with the women i cared about.
So I stopped caring....
The way the world is...women have sex...more than men.. a lot more..and your not gonna meet some virtuous woman...and if you did it would throw u for a loop and you would wonder what her issues were....well it would me...but im 36 not 19.
If you gonna mess with women.. accept that you are just as filthy as her, because you wanna fvck her...so that kinda makes you a hypocritical d1ck really..no offence just you should see that sooner than later.
Either that or steer clear of women altogether...and become a monk...its probably more satisfying anyhow.
That's right. And regardless of the equipment between your legs, nobody's and angel. It's a fact of life.
 
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