Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
As far as median averages go, girls have had sex with twice as many guys than the guys have had with girls.....there's the 5% of guys have been screwing much more than their share. They're the ones who don't kiss and tell any where it would screw up the reputation of the girls.JPlaya said:idk the thought of the girl you take on a date has probably had sex with 5 different guys and crap kind grosses me out. I know it's immature, so how do I get this out of my head?
I used to feel like this until I saw the big picture and realised that that's just life. Women you go with have been with tonnes of men before you, and there will be tonnes more after. People move on.JPlaya said:idk the thought of the girl you take on a date has probably had sex with 5 different guys and crap kind grosses me out. I know it's immature, so how do I get this out of my head?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Well, don't go on sex sites to meet women if you are worried they are seeing 5 guys before they see you that day.JPlaya said:idk the thought of the girl you take on a date has probably had sex with 5 different guys and crap kind grosses me out. I know it's immature, so how do I get this out of my head?
That doesn't work because you'll see her as a slvt and it will come out subconciously in other ways. I tried to do this with some women and I remember I offended a girl twice by asking questions that betrayed this sublimination. For example, I asked one girl how many guys she slept with when she said she's been with other guys. Another girl I asked her who these guys were coming around the car where she lived and I felt threatened and ask her if she sleept with any of them them? Once that slvt image is formed in your head and you put it on the back of your mind it can explode like a bomb.5string said:What the other guys said above.
As far as getting it out of your head, you don't. You either put it in the back of your mind, or convince yourself you don't give a fvck and there is nothing you can do about it anyway.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Have to disagree brother. I banged tons of women over the course of my life. Guess that makes me a slvt huh? Because I did that, does it me a trashy fvckin guy not worthy of a great partner? No way. Same goes for females. To sit here and think that women can't go get some when they need it is ludicrous. Face it, they get horny just like us. May I dare say that this is a double standard?corrector said:That doesn't work because you'll see her as a slvt and it will come out subconciously in other ways. I tried to do this with some women and I remember I offended a girl twice by asking questions that betrayed this sublimination. For example, I asked one girl how many guys she slept with when she said she's been with other guys. Another girl I asked her who these guys were coming around the car where she lived and I felt threatened and ask her if she sleept with any of them them? Once that slvt image is formed in your head and you put it on the back of your mind it can explode like a bomb.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
That's right. And regardless of the equipment between your legs, nobody's and angel. It's a fact of life.remotecontrol said:To the Op...there are two types of woman...the women you have sex with and don't care about and the women you have sex with an do care about.
it only ever bothered me with the women i cared about.
So I stopped caring....
The way the world is...women have sex...more than men.. a lot more..and your not gonna meet some virtuous woman...and if you did it would throw u for a loop and you would wonder what her issues were....well it would me...but im 36 not 19.
If you gonna mess with women.. accept that you are just as filthy as her, because you wanna fvck her...so that kinda makes you a hypocritical d1ck really..no offence just you should see that sooner than later.
Either that or steer clear of women altogether...and become a monk...its probably more satisfying anyhow.