"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Cant get the other side of the game wtf??

youngmack

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Since i came on here i learned alot that i never knew existed. Learned about self improvement,NC,inner game, ETC.

Im in a dilemma though. I dont know the other side of it which is actually interacting with girls ! My conversation skills suck ! I know what not to do when dealing with girls that i know well.

I just cant seem to be able to make a girl want me through conversation. I always attract them, then when i have them my conversations BORE THEM TO DEATH and they run away.

My mind is always empty on what interesting and wiity things to say. I have a friend who does NOTHING but text girls and they are always all over him, He dosent even go on dates with them but somehow hes gets them hooked on him through conversation.

Any help ya'll?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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NobodyCares1

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yeah I had and still have this problem... though not as much as I used to... the only thing that helped me was trying to converse as much as possible... also find someone who is a great at conversations.... talk with that person a lot a observe what are they doing and what are they talking about...

also a big help is to have an interesting life... then if nothing you can at least talk about all the stuff that you have experienced...
 

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Talk about sex, it's interesting. Basically something interesting. It is where "negs" come from, you tell her something negative about herself to upset and disqualify her, but it makes her FEEL something.

You just need to make her feel something as much as you can.

Sorry for vagueness, but I'm really too tired to think of something specific. Go to the very top of the screen and click on the link that says "How to not be boring".
 

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Yeah this really sucks, I've been able to pull in HB8s and above through my physical appearance (i'm not the best looking guy but i dress really nice and my waves are always on spin),

But once i do and we have convos i bore them to death. I dont keep thier interest because frankly i just dont know how to talk to or flirt with them in a way that will induce good emotional thoughts in thier minds while causing an increase in interest.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I have similar problem... I can approach a girl... have a good conversation with her... sometimes even really great conversation... I'm good looking... and I see that the girl is all over me... but then I text her and after some time try to set up a date and boom... she flakes... she loses her interest completely...

I mean I usually end up making out with the first or the second girl that I approach... I get very few rejections when approaching but can't set up a date later at all...
 

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youngmack said:
My mind is always empty on what interesting and wiity things to say.


That's because you're thinking about it.

Remember "inner game"?

Yeah, the same applies to this.

You are naturally a ladies man...
I hate to draw this short, but stop worrying so much.

Just keep going and improving. Eventually, you become a more witty and snappy person.

Like I said to another young man:

The game is not about the women.


Hope this could help.

Namaste.
 

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trying going on an action date, or take her along to DO something. you will then be able to talk about whatever you're doing together instead of trying to make conversation out of nothing.
 

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Keep it light. No religion, politics or talk of all the problems on the world ..
Just tease her but nothing hurtful.. Just talk to them like people, don't treat em like some mythical creature
Main thing is not be nervous and you get rid of that thru allowing yourself to be rejected
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Ok - to help answer this question, tell us about some cool stuff you are doing in your life right now..
 
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