"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Cant get the other side of the game wtf??

youngmack

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Since i came on here i learned alot that i never knew existed. Learned about self improvement,NC,inner game, ETC.

Im in a dilemma though. I dont know the other side of it which is actually interacting with girls ! My conversation skills suck ! I know what not to do when dealing with girls that i know well.

I just cant seem to be able to make a girl want me through conversation. I always attract them, then when i have them my conversations BORE THEM TO DEATH and they run away.

My mind is always empty on what interesting and wiity things to say. I have a friend who does NOTHING but text girls and they are always all over him, He dosent even go on dates with them but somehow hes gets them hooked on him through conversation.

Any help ya'll?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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NobodyCares1

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yeah I had and still have this problem... though not as much as I used to... the only thing that helped me was trying to converse as much as possible... also find someone who is a great at conversations.... talk with that person a lot a observe what are they doing and what are they talking about...

also a big help is to have an interesting life... then if nothing you can at least talk about all the stuff that you have experienced...
 

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Talk about sex, it's interesting. Basically something interesting. It is where "negs" come from, you tell her something negative about herself to upset and disqualify her, but it makes her FEEL something.

You just need to make her feel something as much as you can.

Sorry for vagueness, but I'm really too tired to think of something specific. Go to the very top of the screen and click on the link that says "How to not be boring".
 

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Yeah this really sucks, I've been able to pull in HB8s and above through my physical appearance (i'm not the best looking guy but i dress really nice and my waves are always on spin),

But once i do and we have convos i bore them to death. I dont keep thier interest because frankly i just dont know how to talk to or flirt with them in a way that will induce good emotional thoughts in thier minds while causing an increase in interest.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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NobodyCares1

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I have similar problem... I can approach a girl... have a good conversation with her... sometimes even really great conversation... I'm good looking... and I see that the girl is all over me... but then I text her and after some time try to set up a date and boom... she flakes... she loses her interest completely...

I mean I usually end up making out with the first or the second girl that I approach... I get very few rejections when approaching but can't set up a date later at all...
 

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youngmack said:
My mind is always empty on what interesting and wiity things to say.


That's because you're thinking about it.

Remember "inner game"?

Yeah, the same applies to this.

You are naturally a ladies man...
I hate to draw this short, but stop worrying so much.

Just keep going and improving. Eventually, you become a more witty and snappy person.

Like I said to another young man:

The game is not about the women.


Hope this could help.

Namaste.
 

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trying going on an action date, or take her along to DO something. you will then be able to talk about whatever you're doing together instead of trying to make conversation out of nothing.
 

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Keep it light. No religion, politics or talk of all the problems on the world ..
Just tease her but nothing hurtful.. Just talk to them like people, don't treat em like some mythical creature
Main thing is not be nervous and you get rid of that thru allowing yourself to be rejected
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Ok - to help answer this question, tell us about some cool stuff you are doing in your life right now..
 
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