"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Basically before I came here there were a couple girls I dug. Gave em compliments, made them feel all warm inside. They know I like them.

Learned that was a terrible idea, and decided to stop.

However, their first impression was that I was a nice guy, if I decide to start negging them will it be too obvious? How to you reintroduce yourself to a girl you initially met when you were beta?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Tell her she looks different.

Then don't say why or mention if it's good or bad
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Just dont be that guy anymore. I may be wrong but it seems like you've already got a foot in the door with these females and they think you are a nice guy. That's not a bad thing because they probably trust you more. Trust is good when it comes to getting a female to get intimate with you. I would think it would now be much easier to pull frame on them because of that trust. In terms of compliments, etc, just dont be that guy anymore. They shouldn't expect (or be needy) for you to compliment them 24/7 in order to feel good about themselves or the relationship. So just dont do it.
 
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Listen, there is nothing wrong with being nice. You don't wanna be an ******* and some guys (me included), we have it deep rooted in us to be nice and polite. Thing is, you gotta develop the ability to become a rude mofo when the situation requires it. The real alpha male (in my humble opinion) is not the arrogant crazy guy that goes and lives alone by himself and doesn't wanna talk to anyone. It takes a mixture of your soft side with the grin of your wild side. Be nice, but let them see you are ready to stand on your own two feet at any second. Gonna get those pussies nice and wet so you can do what you wanna do.
 
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lizardking82 said:
Listen, there is nothing wrong with being nice. You don't wanna be an ******* and some guys (me included), we have it deep rooted in us to be nice and polite. Thing is, you gotta develop the ability to become a rude mofo when the situation requires it. The real alpha male (in my humble opinion) is not the arrogant crazy guy that goes and lives alone by himself and doesn't wanna talk to anyone. It takes a mixture of your soft side with the grin of your wild side. Be nice, but let them see you are ready to stand on your own two feet at any second. Gonna get those pussies nice and wet so you can do what you wanna do.
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Good advice above.
 
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Yeah, it's called a "garbage can".
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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AlexKaiser said:
Basically before I came here there were a couple girls I dug. Gave em compliments, made them feel all warm inside. They know I like them.

Learned that was a terrible idea, and decided to stop.

However, their first impression was that I was a nice guy, if I decide to start negging them will it be too obvious? How to you reintroduce yourself to a girl you initially met when you were beta?
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Just stop being fake.

You don't have to be nice and you don't have to neg them either.
 
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