"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Can you "Unpedestal" girls?

AlexKaiser

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Basically before I came here there were a couple girls I dug. Gave em compliments, made them feel all warm inside. They know I like them.

Learned that was a terrible idea, and decided to stop.

However, their first impression was that I was a nice guy, if I decide to start negging them will it be too obvious? How to you reintroduce yourself to a girl you initially met when you were beta?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Tell her she looks different.

Then don't say why or mention if it's good or bad
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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sazc

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Just dont be that guy anymore. I may be wrong but it seems like you've already got a foot in the door with these females and they think you are a nice guy. That's not a bad thing because they probably trust you more. Trust is good when it comes to getting a female to get intimate with you. I would think it would now be much easier to pull frame on them because of that trust. In terms of compliments, etc, just dont be that guy anymore. They shouldn't expect (or be needy) for you to compliment them 24/7 in order to feel good about themselves or the relationship. So just dont do it.
 

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Listen, there is nothing wrong with being nice. You don't wanna be an ******* and some guys (me included), we have it deep rooted in us to be nice and polite. Thing is, you gotta develop the ability to become a rude mofo when the situation requires it. The real alpha male (in my humble opinion) is not the arrogant crazy guy that goes and lives alone by himself and doesn't wanna talk to anyone. It takes a mixture of your soft side with the grin of your wild side. Be nice, but let them see you are ready to stand on your own two feet at any second. Gonna get those pussies nice and wet so you can do what you wanna do.
 

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Listen, there is nothing wrong with being nice. You don't wanna be an ******* and some guys (me included), we have it deep rooted in us to be nice and polite. Thing is, you gotta develop the ability to become a rude mofo when the situation requires it. The real alpha male (in my humble opinion) is not the arrogant crazy guy that goes and lives alone by himself and doesn't wanna talk to anyone. It takes a mixture of your soft side with the grin of your wild side. Be nice, but let them see you are ready to stand on your own two feet at any second. Gonna get those pussies nice and wet so you can do what you wanna do.
Good advice above.
 

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Yeah, it's called a "garbage can".
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Basically before I came here there were a couple girls I dug. Gave em compliments, made them feel all warm inside. They know I like them.

Learned that was a terrible idea, and decided to stop.

However, their first impression was that I was a nice guy, if I decide to start negging them will it be too obvious? How to you reintroduce yourself to a girl you initially met when you were beta?
Just stop being fake.

You don't have to be nice and you don't have to neg them either.
 
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