I have an acquaintance who I run into often and we were at the bar together when groups meet up. So I see her once a week or so. And lately we've been sort of flirting/escalating with each other when we see each other. She asked me if I wanted to share a cab to our final destinations as she was leaving. I said no, and I'm staying at the bar longer. Is this something I can recover from next time I see her? I will see her in a week when I go back to her town (she lives in another city). I know some may say I'm reading too much into this but with the background I'm pretty sure what was going on. Do you ever go back and escalate with a woman you denied before?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Can you recover from denying a woman?
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
Your neediness is showing. Spin plates.
Don't see your problem. You're not easy to get, you had other plans that night. As long you don't apologise to her, I guess you became even more interesting to her.
Keep flirting and escalating and stop worrying about her thoughts.
Keep flirting and escalating and stop worrying about her thoughts.
AllDay85
Senior Don Juan
**** yea. Denying women is a crucial part of game.
You, my friend, just set yourself apart from most guys. Don't ruin it by overanalyzing. Spin plates and do you.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I ran into her again, and spent about 3 hours with her, when it was time to leave, I asked her if she wanted a ride home. She said no and shook her head with a smile. I asked her for her number and her response was she didn't want to give it to me there but will next week. I said I guess I could wait another week and she laughed and said she'd give it to me later that night. I left about 20 minutes later and didn't bring up the phone number.
kenpiffyjr
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what happened to your balls at the bar.
Stand up straight like you're Ab Lincoln and say give me your number so we can go out and have fun soon. Ain't no asking out chere. Take what you want!
Stop being a puss!
Stand up straight like you're Ab Lincoln and say give me your number so we can go out and have fun soon. Ain't no asking out chere. Take what you want!
Stop being a puss!