I have an acquaintance who I run into often and we were at the bar together when groups meet up. So I see her once a week or so. And lately we've been sort of flirting/escalating with each other when we see each other. She asked me if I wanted to share a cab to our final destinations as she was leaving. I said no, and I'm staying at the bar longer. Is this something I can recover from next time I see her? I will see her in a week when I go back to her town (she lives in another city). I know some may say I'm reading too much into this but with the background I'm pretty sure what was going on. Do you ever go back and escalate with a woman you denied before?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Can you recover from denying a woman?
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- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
Your neediness is showing. Spin plates.
Don't see your problem. You're not easy to get, you had other plans that night. As long you don't apologise to her, I guess you became even more interesting to her.
Keep flirting and escalating and stop worrying about her thoughts.
Keep flirting and escalating and stop worrying about her thoughts.
AllDay85
Senior Don Juan
**** yea. Denying women is a crucial part of game.
You, my friend, just set yourself apart from most guys. Don't ruin it by overanalyzing. Spin plates and do you.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I ran into her again, and spent about 3 hours with her, when it was time to leave, I asked her if she wanted a ride home. She said no and shook her head with a smile. I asked her for her number and her response was she didn't want to give it to me there but will next week. I said I guess I could wait another week and she laughed and said she'd give it to me later that night. I left about 20 minutes later and didn't bring up the phone number.
kenpiffyjr
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what happened to your balls at the bar.
Stand up straight like you're Ab Lincoln and say give me your number so we can go out and have fun soon. Ain't no asking out chere. Take what you want!
Stop being a puss!
Stand up straight like you're Ab Lincoln and say give me your number so we can go out and have fun soon. Ain't no asking out chere. Take what you want!
Stop being a puss!